David Deangelo - 3 "Major Mistakes" To Avoid On A Date‏

***QUESTION FROM A READER:

Hello, I am reading your book now and it's great,
the cocky guy thing is working 100%. I actually
got 5 #'s in 4 days! WOW :) Thanks! My Q is, I met
a girl online, she gave me her #, I called her we
met, got dinner, drinks, then made out! Cool
stuff! She says she is having the greatest time,
blah blah blah. When I kissed her, and made out a
little, she then says, slow down its the first
date. I felt bad for going on so fast. So I said
sorry. When we went home (2 different directions)
everything was cool, (looked like it at least) I
said, "ok, thanks, great time blah blah" the i
said "You want me to call u or u gonna call me?"
She goes "I'll call u, u call me its all good" SO
it ended good, (i think) NOW, Should I CALL HER
the next day or not?

Thanks,

K.

P.S. she wants to go out to a different town with
me for the weekend to have fun. HOW DO I ACT SO I
DONT LOOK LIKE A WUSS AND EASY TO GET GUY!??!?!?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, well ready yourself.

I'm about to do some of my "David D. Quack-
Psycho-Analysis" on you. Emphasis on the Psycho.

In a one paragraph email, you managed to tell
me about a MINIMUM of three major mistakes that
you made with this particular girl. If I really
thought about it, I could probably find another
few in there as well.

So hug your inner child and tell him that
everything is going to be OK before I verbally
abuse him...

Here are the three mistakes that I noticed
right off the bat:

1) Making out with her somewhere other than at
your house (or her house).

2) Apologizing for making out with her.

3) Asking her if you should call her, or if she
should call you.

I'll address each one in a minute in detail,
but first let me start off with some of my Quack
theories.

One of the things I say a lot is "Women Aren't
Attracted To Wussies".

I say this because:

1) It's true.

2) If you don't understand this principle, you're
likely to make mistakes that clearly "telegraph"
to a woman that you're a Wuss.

3) When it all comes down, if a woman doesn't feel
ATTRACTION for you, or you somehow manage to screw
up and KILL the ATTRACTION she's feeling... you're
done. Game over.

I think that most of us guys have these little
secret beliefs that we hide from the rest of the
world... and that we TRY to hide from women.

I was having an interesting discussion with a
good friend today, and we were talking about how
most guys act when they're around an "attractive"
woman.

Most guys do one of the following:

- Give attractive women a lot of compliments
immediately.

- Kiss up to attractive women.

- Try to get attractive women to like them by
buying them gifts, dinners and flowers.

- Chase after attractive women and let it be known
that the woman is "a prize worth pursuing" right
from the beginning.

- Hand over all of their power and status to
attractive women.

Know what I'm talking about?

Have you ever seen a guy at dinner with a
beautiful woman... and he's obviously nervous
about the whole situation... and you can tell that
he's doing everything he can to NOT screw up so he
can get the woman's approval?

Have you ever BEEN THAT GUY?

Yeah, me too. A lot.

Well, unfortunately, this kind of behavior
usually BACKFIRES BIG TIME.

All of the little things that most guys do to
get a woman's approval send a clear message to the
woman that:

"I'M A WUSSY. I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT YOU WOULD LIKE
ME FOR WHO I AM, SO I FEEL LIKE I NEED TO RESORT
TO EXTREME MEASURES TO GET YOU TO PAY ATTENTION TO
ME."

Now that I understand this particular aspect of
male/female interactions, I can see the horrible
results all around me.

At bars I watch guys walking up to women and
giving compliments... or offering to buy drinks...
and the women smiling politely thinking, "Oh,
another loser", and excusing themselves...

I see men at dinner with their dates...
DESPERATELY trying to get the women they're with
to show any sign of interest... but the women only
become colder and less interested... And I know
that the women are only getting ANNOYED at this
behavior...

I read personal ads in the paper and online
from men who are saying "Hey, pick me! I'm a great
guy! No, really!"... and I know that the women
reading these ads are saying to themselves "Yeah,
loser"... and the guys are getting little or no
response...

I think you get the picture.

The point I'm making is that when you do things
like asking her if she wants you to call her or if
she wants to call you... and apologizing for
making out with her, you are making the same basic
mistake.

Why would you apologize for making out with a
woman?

I mean, think about it.

You're not REALLY sorry... otherwise you would
not have done it in the first place. Duh.

You were actually LYING when you said you were
sorry. You were only sorry that she didn't want to
continue, man.

When you said, "I'm sorry", what she HEARD was
"Uh oh, I just screwed up. I'd better say
something quick to fix this. I will put aside my
own wants and desires, and say whatever you want
to hear in hopes that you'll like me and give me
attention and approval".

Really.

It's actually even WORSE than that.

The reality of this situation is that when you
apologized, you created a POWER SHIFT.

The power shifted from YOU to HER.

You felt it, and she felt it.

I guarantee that in the few seconds after you
said "I'm sorry", you felt a sinking feeling in
your stomach and knew something was wrong. But I
ALSO guarantee that she felt a little SURGE of
power AT THAT VERY MOMENT.

At the same moment you were realizing that you
just did something wrong, she was realizing that
she OWNED YOU.

Unfortunately, she probably also felt a little
bit of disappointment in you, because you were
apologizing for something just to get her
approval... and women don't WANT to own men.

Heavy man, heavy.

And the SAME thing happened in the moment that
you asked her if she wanted you to call her or if
she wanted to call you (but probably to a lesser
degree).

That's one of those little moments where you
basically said "Here, take the power. Tell me what
you want me to do, and I'll do it. You get to make
the decisions. Please tell me that you want me to
call you, because that will affirm that you like
me".

Keep this up, and you'll probably wind up a
boyfriend who she eventually cheats on... or, even
worse, a boyfriend who she eventually marries and
then divorces because you turned into a boring
Wussy husband from hell.

So, my general advice to you is:

STOP IT!

Stop doing things that let her know that she
OWNS you.

One of the best things you can do is learn to
PAUSE before you respond to ANYTHING that makes
you feel an "Emotional Wussy Rush".

If she says something that indicates that she's
not happy with you or your behavior, PAUSE.

Don't respond. Stay still. Keep the mouth shut
and the brain operating.

If you have to, run everything through your
mental "Wussy Analyzer".

Decide if the response you're going to give her
is to get her approval, and if it is, STOP.

Don't do things that hand over the power in the
relationship. Don't let the things a woman says
shake you emotionally.

Finally, I want to address your mistake of
making out with her somewhere other than in your
house or her house.

I'm sure the reason is obvious, right?

One of the best things I've learned is that if
you LEAN BACK when you're out on a date with a
girl, and don't try to "make your move" early on,
you'll do MUCH better later.

You mentioned that you're reading my eBook
right now... and it sounds like you're actually
doing pretty well. If you've gotten five women's
numbers in four days, I think you're going to
live... lol.

Pay close attention, because in my eBook (and
especially in my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD
program) I share some KILLER techniques for making
it completely "natural" for a woman to come back
to your place, come inside, etc. and the exact
steps to take, to take things to a "physical
level" once you're there.

Most guys totally screw this part up.

They go to all the trouble to approach a woman,
get her number, call her, get a date, go on the
date, pay for the date, spend all that time... and
then have NO IDEA what to do next.

The reality is that if you just KNOW WHAT TO
DO, and you've prepared in advance, you can easily
take things to the next level... and give her an
experience that will make her DEFINITELY call you
back for another date.

David Deangelo - 4 Traits Of A "Cool Guy"

Here's Are 4 Traits Of A "Cool Guy"...

I get a lot of questions from guys asking all
kinds of questions about how to behave around
women.

In fact, this might be one of the areas that
guys want to know the most about.

I've been doing a lot of thinking over the past
year or so about the concept of being "cool".

In other words, I've been watching people
(myself included) to see if I could figure out why
some people are considered "cool" while some are
considered "not-so-cool"... and more importantly,
how to use this idea to have more success with
women.

So what is a "cool guy"?

And what is it about a guy who's "cool" that
makes women feel more attracted to him than an
"uncool" guy?

Let me tell you a few quick mini-stories about
guys I've known who were UN-cool.

One friend I used to have LOVED to argue with
people. He would start arguments about anything
and always take the opposite perspective on every
topic. He did this with women all the time too. I
think he felt like he was coming across as smart
when he argued. Guess what? Women hated it, and
ran as soon as he started in. His guy friends
hated it too. He was UN-cool because his
insecurity was so strong, that he had to argue to
get attention.

Another friend I have always tries to do nice
things and favors for women he likes. As soon as
he meets a woman he likes, he tries to find
something he can do for her. Of course, he then
gets upset when the woman doesn't return the
feelings of affection... and he acts upset and
"taken advantage of". This, of course, makes women
run away. As you can probably guess, he's trying
to manipulate women with favors. And women resent
him for it. Women don't think he's cool, and they
avoid him.

I know one guy who loves to tell women how
beautiful they are, buys them drinks and dinners,
and pursues them with the "You're the greatest
thing in the world and I'm going to chase you
around and try to buy your attention". And even
though he's doing a lot of "nice" things for the
women he's interested in, he can't keep one around
for more than a date or two. Even his guy friends
think that he needs to calm down and act more
"cool" in general.

Now, all three of the guys I've mentioned above
have different problems... but the way I see it,
they're all strangely related.

Here are a few more quick stories about guys I
know who are "cool".

One guy I know always has girls around him. In
fact, I don't think I've ever seen him WITHOUT at
least one girl with him. Usually he has three or
four girls with him... and sometimes up to 10 or
12. He always makes fun of the girls, teases them,
and treats them like good friends who he's
comfortable enough to bust on. He's not rich, he
doesn't buy things for women, and he doesn't kiss
up to them. He DOES, on the other hand, make it
his business to know where the "cool" places are
in town, where to go out, and who to call for the
"inside track" on where the hot spots are. Then he
shows up at the door to these hot spots with five
women. EVERYONE who knows him thinks of him as a
"cool" guy.

I have another friend that is really amazing
with women. But he does something that's rather
unusual when he's around women. He kind of IGNORES
them when he first meets them. If he's out with
friends, and one of them introduces a female
friend to him, he'll shake her hand and say "hi",
then TURN AWAY and go back to whatever he was
doing. Somehow, the women that are around him
always want to talk to HIM. And all the guys he
knows think of him as one of the coolest guys
around.

Finally, I have one friend who literally says
things to women like, "You probably wouldn't like
me. I don't really have relationships with women.
Our relationship will probably go no further than
the physical..." If you've seen my Advanced DVD
Program, you probably remember him saying these
exact words when I'm interviewing him. He's so
calm and laid back around women that they have to
pursue HIM... and it happens a lot. He's
blunt, direct, and honest about whatever is on his
mind. He doesn't chase women, buy them things, or
smother them with compliments... and yet, they
love him. And he has a crew of guy friends who all
love him and think he's one of the "coolest" guys
in the world.

So what is it that separates the "cool" guys
from the "uncool" guys?

What is "cool"?

What is it that makes a few rare people the
kind of people that EVERYONE wants to be around?

What is it about UN-cool guys that repels other
people, and makes women run away?

And what is it about this element that I'm
calling "cool" that makes guys who have it attract
more women than they can handle?

THE DEFINITION OF COOL

I personally think that being "cool" comes down
to:

1) Being independent

2) Being indifferent

3) Being funny

4) Being socially adjusted

Before I get into each of these in detail, I
want to mention something...

Usually, I tend to stick to techniques to help
you meet more women, or give you advice to get
past limiting beliefs, etc.

I've realized recently that there are a few
BASIC, FUNDAMENTAL things that we, as guys, need
to really "get" about interacting with other
people before we start trying to learn advanced
stuff, like how to approach and meet women. If you
don't have some of the basic things handled, all
the fancy techniques in the world won't fix your
problem.

So stick with me here, this is important.

OK, so let's talk about the four components
that I mentioned above.

BEING INDEPENDENT

Independent is the OPPOSITE of "dependent".

When you act "dependent", you lean on others,
you look to them for approval, you ask what they
think before you make a decision, you tend to want
to stay physically close to them, and your
feelings tend to depend on what others feel and
think of you.

When you act INDEPENDENT, you lean back, you do
things because YOU decided you wanted to, you
don't ask others what they think - instead you
decide yourself, you are fine walking away from
your friends for awhile when you're out, and your
feelings are controlled by what YOU think, not
what others think.

A "dependent" person will go into a bar with
friends, stick close to them all night, ask what
everyone else is drinking before they order, get
upset easily about things that others say, and
constantly be looking for attention and approval
in some way.

An INDEPENDENT person, on the other hand, will
go into a bar with friends and be more likely
to... walk away and look around the place ALONE to
see who's there - and feel fine about leaving
their friends for awhile and striking up a
conversation with a stranger... They'll order a
drink if they want, or water if they want - and
not care what everyone else is drinking... They'll
be cool and calm no matter what happens - even if
others are getting upset around them... And, most
importantly, they aren't looking to others for
attention and approval. They're doing their own
thing, and enjoying whatever happens.

BEING INDIFFERENT

Most people in this world are ATTACHED to the
outcomes of things. They're constantly worrying
about what's going to happen... and talking about
the future in a fearful, uncertain way.

This type of person always wants to know what
other people think of them, and they're worrying
about what they should do so other people will
like them. Unfortunately, this almost ALWAYS comes
across as INSECURITY.

An INDIFFERENT person, on the other hand, just
goes about life and takes things as they come.

The indifferent person is INDIFFERENT to the
outcome of whatever situation they're in.

If it's a man, and he's approaching a woman, he
will be OK with whatever happens. If she's nice to
him, great. If she's uptight, no problem. If she's
rich, famous, and beautiful... and starts coming
on to him, fine. No big deal.

When you are ATTACHED to the outcome of a
situation, it makes you act all kinds of freaky.
You pause, act nervous, hold back, look for
approval, act insecure... and any of 100 other
unattractive things.

On the other hand, when you're INDIFFERENT to
the outcome, it makes you MAGNETIC. Especially
when it comes to women and dating. Indifference is
the ultimate way to show a LACK of insecurity in
life.

BEING FUNNY

Humor is magic.

It's a complete mystery why we find things
"funny" and why we "laugh".

Crying because someone died makes some logical
sense. It's a bad thing, and crying expresses a
negative emotion.

But when you see a dog run into a window
because he doesn't see it... and he gets a
confused look on his face, you LAUGH. What's with
that?

Humor is interesting to me, in that if you're
funny, it makes people FEEL GOOD inside. They
laugh, and it triggers positive feelings.

If you're not naturally funny, it's a great
skill to learn. Read books. Watch live comedy. Do
whatever it takes to learn how to be funny.

Most of the "coolest" guys I know are wickedly
funny. Some of them are only funny on occasion...
but they "get it"... and when they do make a joke,
it's DAMN funny.

BEING SOCIALLY ADJUSTED

I know that this sounds funny, but most of the
people I know who are "UN-cool" are not very
adjusted socially.

They lack a certain something in the "social
skills" department that makes it OBVIOUS to others
(and especially to women) that they don't know how
to relate very well to other people. They just
never learned how to make others feel comfortable
around them.

If you've ever known an accountant or computer
programmer that was brilliantly smart, but totally
boring, you know what I mean.

If people act kind of nervous, strange, and
uncomfortable when they're around you, then you
also know where I'm coming from on this.

I can't teach you how to make people feel
comfortable around you in two sentences, but if
you need to learn how to mix with people socially,
then start PAYING ATTENTION to what's going on
around you.

Watch how others dress, carry themselves, walk,
and talk. Pay attention to little details... like
saying, "What's up?" when you meet someone new,
instead of "Hello, pleased to meet you" and such.

...now, is this all there is to being "cool"?

Of course not.

But it's a great start.

If you can first get yourself to the place
where other people want to be around you just
because they enjoy your company, you'll find that
taking things to the next level with women will be
about 10 times easier.

I've had this conversation with MANY of the
guys I know who are successful with women, and
they all basically say the same thing... you have
to learn how to be "cool" and make others (women)
feel comfortable just being in the same room with
you. And if you're "cool", this happens almost
instantly. If you're not "cool", then you're going
to have a hard time making ANYONE feel comfortable
with you... never mind having a woman feel
ATTRACTION for you.

Now, I also realized that a lot of the
materials that I teach in my eBook and Advanced
Dating Techniques CD/DVD Program are aimed at this
EXACT topic.

Even though I don't talk very much about this
concept (I will in the future, though), you'll
notice that many of the techniques you'll learn
from my materials will help you in a lot of areas
of your life... not just with women.

As a direct result of the things I've learned
about how to be more successful with women and
dating, I've ALSO become more successful at things
like being invited to "exclusive" parties, having
famous and successful people pursue me as a
friend, and just generally being invited into more
"exclusive" social circles.

Why is this?

Well, for one thing, people who know a lot of
"cool" or influential people are very careful
about who they "bring along" to gatherings with
friends.

The LAST thing someone "cool" needs in their
life is an "UN-cool" person making a jackass of
themselves in front of all of their friends.

When you learn the art of being "cool", you
start to attract other cool people. And those
people will see that you're not insecure,
emotionally unstable, clingy, and such. They'll
see that you know how to handle yourself with
other people (and with women), and they'll start
introducing you to other cool people (including
women) instead of running away from you.

I know that this newsletter is going to ignite
a whole series of letters to me about how learning
these concepts has done exactly what I'm talking
about for various guys (and I want to hear about
it, by the way, so make sure you write in).

So, want more great ideas on how to be "cool",
and how to meet and date more women?

I thought so...

It took me a long time to figure out how to be
"cool" around women... and how to make women feel
that powerful physical and emotional response
called ATTRACTION...

I can't tell you how much I wish I could have
known what I teach when I was younger. It's taken
me literally YEARS to put all the pieces together,
and I invite you to take advantage of the time,
effort, energy, and money I've invested to
discover, refine, and organize all of the step- by-
step techniques I've put together...

David Deangelo - "Approaching Women" - A Great Technique‏

***QUESTION***

Hello Dave,

I just wanted to start off by saying you have very
valid points with women. I have worked at bars and
restaurants where women come in looking to hook up
with men. And the cocky-funny attitude works
wonders. I'm 22 going on 23 and I have had no
problem ever getting women to give me their
number. But there is one problem I do have. That
is timing "the call". When should I call? Plus I
used your "Are you single" approach with this very
attractive girl. She gave me 5 mins of her time
and I found out some cool things about her. She
was very hesitant on giving me her number, but
after I sat down to talk to her, she gave me her
number. Well, I called her two days after she
gave me her number and she was on the other line.
So she told me to call her back in 15 mins. I
waited 30 and she never answered the phone. so I
left a message. Should I rip up her number and
never call her again? Or should I call her in a
week? Your advise would be greatly appreciated.
Plus why would she give me her number if she
planned on not talking to me in the first place?

Thanks.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I personally think that this is one of the
funniest questions I hear. I mean, haven't you
watched "Swingers"? lol...

My rule of thumb is to wait at least one day,
but not more than a few. The real key is how OFTEN
you call her, and more importantly, what you SAY
when you call.

But let's talk about the psychology of why
women give out their phone numbers, and why I
personally like to get email addresses.

You must remember that attractive women are
being approached all the time by men, in one way
or another.

They have an unlimited supply of guys to choose
from.

I think that a lot of women who give out their
numbers, but then respond by being flaky when you call,
are doing something that many of us guys wouldn't
have thought of in a million years:

I think they're making themselves feel good.

Explained differently, I think that many women
who give out their numbers are looking for the
self-image-boosting hit of power that comes from
having a lot of men calling them... men that THEY
have the power to ACCEPT OR REJECT.

They can also use it to get attention from
friends:

"All these guys just keep calling me! Why don't
they just leave me alone! Don't they get the
hint!?"

Now, don't get me wrong. I know that this
sounds a little bit negative... and I don't mean
to say that ALL women do this, or that ALL women
are bad, etc.

To me, it's just part of the real world that
you need to learn to accept and deal with.

Which leads me to why I get email addresses...

Keep in mind, I've tried a lot of different
things when it comes to curing this problem of
hot-and-cold women who act one way when you meet
them, then totally different when you call.

And what I've found is that if you get EMAILS
instead, you not only differentiate yourself, but
you also increase your chances of hearing back
from her by about 100%. No lie.

For some reason, email has a power that a call
does not.

If you have my ebook "Double Your Dating", then
you have read about the technique for getting a
woman's email address within a few minutes of
meeting her. Email is also seen as lower risk by
her... and it's easier to get as well.

Try it. You'll like it.

***QUESTION***

David

Being cocky is the best way to go! I have picked
up more chicks reading your newsletter then I ever
have in my life. Getting the digits is a problem i
used to have and really sweat about. But now its a
breeze! and i average about 3-5 a week.

But anyway to my dilemma..! I met this chick at
work, she is very good looking and we flirt all
the time. But she has a boyfriend! He drives a
killer truck and he is 22 and im 19. Recently we
have been flirting and talking more then ever. but
a co-worker went up to her and said that i really
like her and that she should stop sending me the
wrong signals since she has a boyfriend. So she
comes up to me and tells me that flirting is just
part of her personality and that she has a
boyfriend that she plans on being with for a
while. But it just doesn't add up... when im
around her i get a totally different vibe...
everybody around me tells me that they can tell
she wants me. Plus i already have her number
THANKS TO YOU!!!! but how do i get past the mature
rich boyfriend. Or boyfriends in general!! im
stumped on how to retaliate Please help me find
out what she wants, and how to send the bf packin!
i am so stuck on this chick that i even find
myself being depressed after that day... HELP
ME!!!

your loyal fan.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

With all the women out there that don't have
boyfriends who drive trucks... and don't work at
the same place you do (which can only lead to
problems in the long run), why are you spending
your time pining away over this one?

I know, I know. She's extra good-looking, and
she's funny, and blah blah blah.

Look, just be her friend, and keep teasing her.
She's great target practice.

But do yourself a major favor, and go find a
girl who doesn't have a truck-owning boyfriend,
and who doesn't work with you.

Then, if the stars align in the future, she
won't have Truck Man anymore, and you won't work
at the same place, and she'll be so attracted to
you from all of the teasing that she'll follow you
around like a puppy.

Stop wasting your mental energy trying to get
something that has a high risk of turning out very
bad, and focus on finding opportunities that make
more sense.

***QUESTION***

Hi David,

What are your thoughts on approaching groups? And
what's the best way to approach a group of girls?
I just moved to Vegas, and I've found that
beautiful girls will frequently travel in groups
of up to 8 girls or more. What have you found
works best for approaching groups? Thanks!

S.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

The only reasons I can see for approaching a
"Group" of 8 or more girls are:

1) You have a bunch of friends, and you're trying
to hook them all up.

2) You really like challenges and entertaining
people.

I know someone who loves to approach groups of
people, and he's great at it. He uses a
combination of magic, humor, and other great
techniques to charm everyone, then leaves with the
girl of his choice.

But as far as I'm concerned, it's not the group
you're after most of the time... it's one woman in
the group... so stop with the "GROUP-THINK".

OK, 8 women walk into a club together (sounds
like the beginning of a good joke). What happens
over the next 2 hours?

Well, some of them peel off and dance, some go
to the bar for a drink, some go to the lady's room
to powder their noses...

There are all kinds of opportunities to meet
women when they're not in the group of 8. And I'll
tell you what, if she is standing at the bar with
her 7 friends and you start talking to her, the
other 7 will go about their business and not care.

Just go get her email address. That's all you
need.

Or learn magic. Really.

***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

David:

As a female subscriber I'd like to admit to
consciously falling for many of the techniques
outlined in your newsletter. I'm a nineteen year
old college girl and have been dating my boyfriend
for four years. His occasional disinterest in me
only makes me want him more. He doesn't call or
email me as often as i call him or think it
necessary that we spend every weekend together and
i know he has a life other than me (i find this
terribly attractive). His body language or habit
of "taking up space and leaning back" is
irresistible and his cocky attitude has been
making me hot for years. I want to tell your male
subscribers not to lose the cocky/funny routine
after they have found a girl they like; not just
to keep her, but to attract other girls as well. i
find it a huge turn on when i catch other girls
checking out my guy.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ah, yes. Thanks for the comments. Next time do
tell more about the whole "I find it a huge turn
on when I catch other girls checking out my guy"
thing.

***QUESTION***

Hi David,

I have a question for you. Does the techniques you
use in your book work on women of all races? I am
African - American.

Thanks,

GB

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I get literally hundreds of emails a week from
all over the world telling success stories, so my
guess is that "yes, they do"...

And as a matter of fact, I'd like to thank all
my readers from every corner of the planet for
staying tuned, and for sending in your questions
and stories.

Often, the person sending the story doesn't
speak or write English very well, and I don't
speak their language, so I don't include them in
these Mailbags... but I try to respond personally
when I can.

My answer to you is: Try it. I think these
principals are universal when it comes to women.
Just take your local customs, traditions, and
benchmarks of proper behavior, as cultures
differ... and I know that our culture in America
is different than many of the cultures around the
world.

***QUESTION***

David, I just wanted to give your book a plug to
all the men out there who are currently involved
in a long-term relationship and want to spice
things up. Using the techniques described in your
book I completely turned around a 10 year
relationship that had gone stale. We went from
having sex 2-3 times a day in the first 6 months
of the relationship to once or twice a MONTH in
the last couple of years. After reading your book,
I began the whole cocky/funny routine on my wife
and stopped giving in to every little whim she had
and...BAM! Just like that she was attracted again.
She tried to pretend that she didn't like the
cockiness, but her actions showed how she really
felt about it. We're now back to 2-3 times a week
and I'm loving life. Thanks buddy for a great
education.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Can I just tell you how much I love getting
emails like this one? Hats off to you.

***QUESTION***

I just wanted to say I LOVE YOU MAN! for
emphasizing the COCKY AND FUNNY philosophy. I've
recently tried out this Internet dating thing and
man I'm telling you that I turned up the volume to
the max on being "cocky and funny" towards the
cutest chicks on the web. Let me tell you man that
my profile reads like a d*ckhead who can be
hilarious at the same time wrote this stuff. I
would say things like I got "abs" and sh*t, and
that I only date girls with pretty faces and who
have cute feet and straight teeth; that I like to
party and have fun and look good doing it and that
my weakness is that I can be an a**hole sometimes
but give me one reason to change? You would not
believe the response so far. I'll keep you posted.

Keep up the good advice.

V.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

lol... You just gotta love guys who take things
to the limit, huh? I think you're starting to get
it... lol.

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

This cocky/funny stuff becomes part of you after
you use it for a while. I have gotten numerous e-
mails and dates under my belt thanks to you.

Example : I met this girl at a bar, mostly college
crowd. Lot of guys were hitting on her. But as
soon as I saw her alone - I approached her. Here
is the dialogue:

Me: Hey, can I ask you a quick question? Her:
ya.... Me: You go to college around here? Her: no
(and then she looks away as if not interested) Me:
(I tap on her shoulder) So where you from? Her:
From...(she gives the city name 4hrs away from
where I live) Me: How do you like it here? Her: I
am visiting friends (She looks away again and
talks to her friend). Me: So what do you do in
(her town)? Her: I go to pharmacy school... Me: SO
YOU ARE A DRUG DEALER?? Her:(She cracks up and the
ice is broken).....small talk .....ya da ya da.
me: small talk.....ya da ya da me: I need to go
back to my friends but nice meeting you.(I turn
away) her: nice meeting you too (I really had her
attention by now) Me: (Turn back) do you have e-
mail? her: I don't check my e-mail often. ME:
"Ha!ha!ha!" (I started laughing loud) Her:(Little
disarmed) Me: Do you have electricity? Her:
no....(cracks up)....I really don't check e- mail.
Me: Listen girl....imagine the worst case
scenario...(do as mentioned in you DD book) .....I
just want to make friends with a DRUG DEALER. Her:
Okay...here is my e-mail. TOTAL TIME - 3 minutes
and 16 seconds to get her e-mail - yes i timed it.

We have exchanged e-mails back and forth now. She
even asked me to come to her place to go
partying/dancing.

I replied back saying: "What?? I don't even know
you and u want me already? Sorry I am not that
easy. Whatever happened to the good old days when
ladies invite guys for coffee first?"

She is special (she is awesome and seems to have
good personal qualities). Problem is she lives
four hours away - how do I go about doing this
long distance thing? I told her to come on down
to my town. Provided she has personality that
matches her looks - I think she would be worth my
time and I would drive 4hrs to see her.

-A.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I know, isn't it great that this stuff actually
works?

By the way, nice touch asking the pharmacy
school gal if she's a drug dealer.

This is a great example of EXACTLY what to do
when you meet a girl. Read it again.

And as for the driving 4 hours thing... In the
4 hours of driving EACH WAY, you could probably go
out and meet several other nice young ladies that
are a bit closer. Maybe she loves to drive?

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

Unsolicited, I think you're book is AMAZING. NICE
WORK! Breaking rapport with humor is a charm! I'm
having a blast with it. Ex: Attractive older
woman at the cash register tells me to move over
to the next register, then she tells another clerk
to take care of the next customer, I say, "You
just order EVERYBODY around...DON'T you?" She
goes, "I'm too old to get married, but I LIKE you!
You're REAL!" So of course, I responded, "Well, I
just do what I'm told, but I'm not so sure about
you...too BOSSY." Women love this stuff!

Question: I've noticed in three different
occasions where chicks have respond to my actions
by pouting. I know that you've had some great
recommendations, i.e., saying, "You're cute when
you pout.", etc. and it works, but, in your
opinion, have you found that the pouters have a
lot of personal baggage? Or is that normal
female behavior??...or BOTH. The last thing I want
to do is get too involved with a neurotic. Please
share your experience and observation. Thanks, DJ
Chicago

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, if you date enough women, you'll get just
about every possible response in the world.

Sure, once in awhile a woman will pout if you
give her a hard time and tease her.

It's a judgment call, but if you're dealing
with a fragile personality just say, "Oh, lighten
up."

Most of the time, just do what you're doing...
"You're cute when you're mad" is great.

Thanks for your story.

***QUESTION***

Dave, its working too good for me!!!....lol! You
truly know ur stuff. I've had so many girls
pursue
me in the last couple of months. Ive narrowed
down my girls down to 2 and they both cant get
enough of me, but theres one i really like out of
the 2. I've recently decided to break it off with
one of them and stick with the one i really like,
but there's a problem. With the one that i really
like, no one really has the upper hand in the
relationship. I dont know what i have to do to
gain this powerful control. How can i make this
girl wait on my every word!??!?! Any help would
be much appreciated. Once again, you are the man
Dave. Thanks again.

B.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ahhhhh... interesting.

The one you like is the one who won't allow
herself to be controlled. An attractive woman with
a sharp mind and a quick wit. A challenge.

Probably not a coincidence, my friend.

Of course, this is the same thing a woman is
looking for in a man... someone who is
interesting, challenging, unpredictable...

If I were you, I'd thank my lucky stars that:

1) You found a woman that is this great.

2) You learned how to be and stay attractive to
her.

You sound like a guy who's interested in having
a great relationship, but I'm not a relationship
counselor.

I get guys INTO troubles like yours, not help
them deal with it!

You poor, poor dear.

OK, I gotta go... but one more thing...

If you are thinking to yourself "I really,
really need to get this part of my life
handled"...

Then YOU'RE RIGHT.

You certainly do need to get it handled.

You need to learn how to become more successful
with women and dating RIGHT NOW.

David Deangelo - What Annoys Women AND What Attracts Them

If you listen to women talk about men, you'll
often hear them use the word "ANNOYING" to
describe certain men and certain things that some
men DO.

Now, as you can probably guess, it's not
usually a good thing when a woman uses this
particular word to describe a guy...

And, as you can ALSO probably guess, when a
woman uses this particular word, it's not usually
about guys who she is ATTRACTED to (although this
isn't always true).

Now, it's taken me a few years of paying
attention to really get a handle on what women are
talking about when they say, "He's annoying" or
"It's so annoying when he does that".

And guess what I realized was at the ROOT of
women finding a guy or his behavior annoying?

IT'S ALMOST ALWAYS WUSSY BEHAVIOR!

AHHHH!

THINGS THAT ANNOY WOMEN...

Here are some of the things that many women
consider to be "annoying":

- Calling her too often

- Telling her that you have "feelings" for her too
early

- Giving away your power to her and making her the
boss

- Always asking a woman what she wants instead of
leading

- Acting submissive and weak

- Accepting her demands, bossy-ness, and
manipulative requests

- Being her doormat and putting your own needs
aside

"WHAT?" you say.

"HOW COULD THIS BE?"... you might be thinking.

How is it possible that demonstrating your
affection for a woman by calling her, telling her
how you feel, letting her make the decisions, and
putting her first could be considered ANNOYING, of
all things?

Well guess what?

IT IS.

Women, and ESPECIALLY the most ATTRACTIVE and
desirable women, usually consider the above things
to be VERY annoying.

Of course, the reason for this is because no
matter how good these kinds of behaviors seem on
the surface, there's only one conclusion that can
be drawn from them:

THE MAN DOING THEM IS A BONAFIDE, 100%
CERTIFIABLE WUSSY!

AND WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO WUSSIES.

NEVER.

Now, do I really, really, REALLY mean that
women are NEVER, EVER attracted to Wussies?

I mean, isn't that an over- generalization?

Nothing is always true, right?

Well, this one IS.

Actually, what I MEAN is...

As far as generalizations go, this particular
one is as close to being true all the time as they
get.

And just in case I haven't said this enough,
let me say it one more time... just to make sure
it's clear:

WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO WUSSIES.

So now you understand why all of the "nice"
things that you've done for women seem to always
result in the woman pulling away.

It's because she finds your nice-guy "Wuss"
behaviors to be ANNOYING.

AND IT KEEPS GETTING WORSE...

To further confuse things, you'll often hear a
woman say something to the effect of...

"I want a STRONG guy who is also SENSITIVE..."

...or...

"He needs to have his own life, his own
interests, and his own friends, but also be
totally focused on me..."

I see things like this in women's personal ads
all the time. I'm sure you've seen things like
this yourself.

Women often talk about wanting a combination of
things in a man that just don't seem to fit...

So what's going on here?

Are women crazy? (Yes.)

But seriously, what are they talking about?

How is it that women seem to always talk about
wanting men who have these qualities that don't
fit together?

I know that I personally used to hear this
stuff and then say to myself "OK, well I've got
the sensitive part covered so I guess I need to
start acting a little bit stronger."

I thought that maybe this came down to getting
my lazy ass to the gym and working out. You know,
to become "stronger".

No, I'm serious.

Well, here's the BIG REALIZATION that I had...

I've now realized that I had it all wrong.

Instead of thinking to myself that I was a
nice, sensitive guy that needed to become a little
stronger, what I really needed was to become a
strong guy who could also act sensitive on
occasion.

The difference seems almost like word-play, but
it's not. Not at all.

You see, when a woman says that she wants a
"strong guy who's also sensitive", that's what she
MEANS.

She wants a guy who's STRONG. The sensitive
part is far more "optional" than the STRONG part.

This is why women often date jerks and guys who
are emotionally unavailable, and don't date us
"nice guys" who would do anything for them.

Remember, ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE.

Women do not sit down and make a list of the
qualities that a particular guy has, then think it
over it for a few days, then DECIDE whether or not
to FEEL ATTRACTION.

NO WAY.

It happens in an INSTANT, and it happens for
all kinds of "illogical" reasons... reasons that
even the woman who is feeling it can't usually
describe.

So what's the answer here?

The answer here is to realize that many of the
things you do when you're around women that you
feel attracted to, are considered ANNOYING by
those women.

You must understand that you sometimes have to
do things that SEEM to be "inconsiderate" in order
to give a woman what she REALLY wants (which is a
man who is in control of himself, the situation,
and often her).

Raise your right hand, and repeat after me...

"I will stop being a Wussy around women."

"I will stop being a Wussy around women."

"I will stop being a Wussy around women."

Stop doing things that say "I'm a Wussy",
because those are the very things that women find
ANNOYING.

And START doing the things that you're learning
here.

Lean back. Act Cocky & Funny around women. Bust
on them and give them a hard time. And LEAD the
way, don't follow.

Now, one of the problems that a lot of guys run
into is "putting together" different personality
traits that don't seem to go together.

Women say that they want guys who are funny...
but also strong.

Many of the things women SAY they want seem
like they CONFLICT with each other.

What's a guy to do?

Well, THE FIRST thing a guy should do is learn
what WORKS.

Not what SOUNDS like it might work.

Not what SHOULD work.

And not what is SUPPOSED to work.

LEARN WHAT WORKS.

I personally spent several years trying to
figure out what "works". Why did it take me so
long?

Because, as it turns out, I started out with a
HUGE disadvantage.

And I'm not talking about a disadvantage like a
big nose (which I have).

I'm talking about a disadvantage like BAD
PROGRAMMING.

I had a "map" in my mind... of how I thought I
should behave around women... and it turned out to
be THE WRONG MAP.

The most frustrating part was that when I did
the things that SHOULD work, they made women UN-
interested.

It was as if the world wasn't working right.

I would be sweet and nice, and a woman would
not want to talk to me.

I would call often and share my feelings with
her, and she would fall for the rude jerk who
could care less about treating her well.

Well, as you might already know, sometimes I'm
a "glutton for punishment".

Translation: I stuck with it anyway. I kept
trying to figure out what works... even though the
things I was doing WEREN'T working.

The magic "breakthrough" came ONLY after I
started making friends with and watching guys who
were VERY successful with women... then putting
what I knew about psychology and behavior together
with the NEW stuff I was learning "in the field".

What I discovered was literally SHOCKING to me.

I can remember slapping myself on the forehead,
shaking my noggin, and laughing to myself... as I
watched some of my new friends who were good with
women... doing things that just plain SHOULDN'T
work... but that DID work.

Here's one of the lessons I learned:

Body Language is more important than WORD
language.

In fact, you can have the smoothest "pick up
lines" in the world... but if you don't understand
Body Language, the woman you're talking to CAN'T
feel ATTRACTION for you.

Here's another one:

Doing "nice" things for a woman doesn't make
her any more likely to feel ATTRACTION for you. In
fact, most of these things BACKFIRE... and wind up
pushing her AWAY.

Here's a third lesson I learned:

Even though "jerks" and "bad boys" don't treat
women well, it doesn't mean that women don't feel
ATTRACTION for them.

In fact, women often report feeling INCREDIBLY
attracted to these kinds of men... so powerfully,
in fact, that they can't CONTROL these feelings...

As I was learning these interesting and
"counter intuitive" lessons, I also began
documenting the specific things that the guys who
were "naturals" with women did... in order to
attract women.

One of my BIGGEST realizations was that
literally ANY guy can attract women... if he just
understands how ATTRACTION works.

And any guy can use the secrets that "jerks"
and "bad boys" have discovered and used... WITHOUT
being abusive or mean.

In fact, if you LEAVE OUT the meanness or
abuse, a woman will be FAR more likely to STAY
around.

David Deangelo - 4 Tips For Keeping A Woman's Attention

Now let's get to the good stuff...and let me
share with you the BEST ways I have ever seen
to keep a woman interested in you.

***QUESTION***

Greetings,

I'm considering investing in your program, but I
have a question for you before I do. Essentially,
I'm no longer looking to hook up with women left
and right. In fact, I think I've met "the one,"
but I'm having trouble making her realize this.
I've been pursuing her for about five months
(during part of which time she was away at school,
but we kept in regular contact, at first through
e-mail and, later, over the phone), and I get the
sense that she's very guarded about relationships.
She's *very* goal oriented (which is one of the
many things I love about her, BTW), and therefore
very busy, and - I suspect - she's been burned in
the past, relationship wise. At any rate, on a
couple of occasions, it felt to me as if things
were moving forward, and then she backpedaled;
perhaps she "got spooked," and took a big step
back to protect herself. Most recently, we were
out for the first time since she finished school,
and - insofar as I was able to determine, I was
getting the green light all night: at a movie, I
slipped my arm around her and she leaned in,
resting her head on my shoulder; later, we were at
a club for a band, and when we were ready to
leave, she reached across the table and held my
hand for a while; on the way back to the car, it
was pretty chilly, and when she complained about
the chill, I stepped over and hugged her. She
responded by stepping into it: she pressed her
face hard into my shoulder, and stepped into full
body to body contact - hip to hip, shoulder to
shoulder and everything in between. When we got
back to her place, I moved to kiss her and she
shied away such that it would have been
*extremely* awkward for me to actually do so.

At any rate, we've gotten together since (in fact,
I offered to cook dinner for her, and she somehow
maneuvered it around such that I was *her* guest,
and she cooked for me) and we talked a while. As I
said above, I think she got a little spooked. She
specifically said that she thought the
relationship could've evolved into something
romantic, but that it hasn't, and she wasn't sure
why. At this moment, she says she doesn't believe
it will. We remain *very* close friends, but I
still believe she's the one, and I've told her
that I'm still going to pursue this, and she's
keen on still spending time together (for her, for
now, as close friends).

My question is this: do you believe your program
can aid me in turning her around on this? If so,
why?

Thanks,

B.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, sit down for this.

Hold on to something tight, because I'm going
to yell at you for your own damn good...

YOU ARE TOTALLY MISSING WHAT'S GOING ON!

THIS WOMAN ACTUALLY LIKES YOU, AND YOU'RE
SCREWING IT ALL UP BY ACTING LIKE A NEEDY WUSS
BAG!

If you were closer, I'd slap you myself.

DUH!

Whew. Let me calm myself. As you know, I don't
usually get so worked up. That makes three
exclamation marks in one email, and I haven't even
started lambasting you proper yet. (What is
lambasting, anyway? And is that how you spell it?
It's such a great word. I really should look and
find out.)

OK, I'm calm.

NOW, let's have a little talk here...

The reason why this kind of situation bothers
me is at least twofold:

1) Because I've been in it myself about a
bazillion and a half times, and it sucks to be
screwing something up and not even realize that
you're doing it.

2) I can tell from your email that you actually
like this girl A LOT, and that she's probably a
fantastic woman... and I hate to see you working
so hard against yourself... and screwing this up
when it's right there in front of you for the
taking.

Before I tell you all the reasons why you most
DEFINITELY should invest in my Advanced Dating
Techniques program, let me give you a few pointers
that might help you STOP screwing this up in the
meantime.

OK, back to the basics.

Let's take this from the top...

At the very beginning of your email, you said
something that basically telegraphed EXACTLY what
was going on here...

You said "...I think I've met "the one," but
I'm having trouble making her realize this. I've
been pursuing her for about five months..."

You're having trouble making her REALIZE this?

You've been PURSUING her?

Do you assume that at some point within the
NEXT five months that she's going to wake up one
day and feel a powerful ATTRACTION for you because
you like to chase her around and tell her how you
feel about her?

Normally I'd make fun of you here, and tell you
that you don't get it... blah blah blah.

But for some reason I feel like I just have to
lay things out for you directly.

Look, man... the reason why she's telling you
that she "doesn't know why it hasn't evolved into
something romantic" is that she doesn't FEEL IT.

She doesn't FEEL IT.

Get it?

SHE DOESN'T FEEL IT!

She doesn't feel ATTRACTION for you.

And you can't CONVINCE her to feel it by
chasing her around and telling her how you "feel"
about her.

Attraction, as I always say, ISN'T A CHOICE.

Now, you're acting like most guys who think things
like: "If she only knew how I felt about her,
she'd feel the same way" and "If I keep pursuing
her, she'll eventually see how much I love her"
etc.

Well guess what?

AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN, HOMEY.

Right now you are playing what is referred to
as a "losing game".

Think of it this way. If you stop on the way
home from work every day and buy a lottery ticket,
you'll win once in awhile. Hell, you might even be
lucky one day and win big.

But your chances SUCK.

You're probably going to lose a LOT more than
you win over time.

Like I said, you COULD win big. There is a
chance. But you probably won't. And I mean
probably with a BIG P.

I refer to the way that you're acting as "Being
a Wussy" (that's the technical term... made it up
myself).

When you act like a Wussy, you do things like:

-Pursue

-Cling

-Share "feelings"

-Act submissive

-Seek approval

-Pine away

This is WUSSY behavior.

It's distinctly FEMININE in nature.

When guys act like this, they're getting in
touch with their inner little girl (and she needs
a spanking in the worst way).

And are you ready for the WORST, WORST part?

When you act like this around a woman (and
ESPECIALLY a "goal oriented" woman who's probably
smart and powerful like yours) they CANNOT feel
the emotion of ATTRACTION towards you.

Women aren't attracted to Wussies.

This is a UNIVERSAL truth.

And by the way that you describe your
relationship with this woman, SHE REALLY WANTS TO
BE ATTRACTED TO YOU!

She's trying, man.

And she probably KNOWS that you'd be a great
guy to be in a relationship with... but she just
doesn't FEEL IT... so she holds back. I'm sure she
WISHES that she could be attracted to you. I'll
bet you money.

Look, you need to STOP acting like a nice
friend guy Wuss IMMEDIATELY if you want this to
turn into something.

You're probably beyond help with this
particular woman, but I'm going to give you a few
ideas JUST IN CASE...

1) Stop calling her all the time (if you do),
and stop spending so much time with her.

2) Start dating other women IMMEDIATELY, and
make sure she knows about it.

3) Stop being all lovey with her, and don't
tell her how you "feel about her" anymore. Stop it.

4) Accept that you will probably be friends
with her forever, and start acting that way.

5) Don't try to kiss her or be physical with
her at ALL anymore until you understand what you're
doing.

Remember, what you're doing ISN'T WORKING.

If you do these things that I've described, you
will probably have the best chance of turning this
around.

David Deangelo - Avoid The 10 Most Dangerous Dating Mistakes Men Make‏

"The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably
Make With Women" And What To Do About It..."

Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With
Women And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of
These Deadly Common Mistakes...

MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much of A "Nice" Guy

Have you ever noticed that the really
attractive women never seem to be attracted to
"nice" guys?

Of course you have.

Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive
female friends that always seemed to date
"jerks"... but for some reason they were never
romantically interested in YOU.

What's going on here?

It's actually very simple...

Women don't base their choices of men on how
"nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do
because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION
for them.

And guess what?

Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that
powerful ATTRACTION.

And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.

I realize that this doesn't make a lot of
logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET
OVER IT.

Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on
it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that
you want.

MISTAKE #2: Trying To "Convince" Her To Like You

What do most guys do when they meet a woman
that they REALLY like... but she's just not
interested?

Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel
differently.

Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER
CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO
ATTRACTION!

Never, ever, EVER.

You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently
about you with "logic and reasoning".

Think about it.

If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in
the world do you expect to change that FEELING by
being "reasonable" with her?

But we all do it.

When a woman just isn't interested, we beg,
plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.

Bad idea. One that will never work.

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or
Permission

In our desire to please women (which we
mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys
are always doing things to get a woman's
"approval" or "permission".

Another HORRIBLE idea.

Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men
who kiss up to them... EVER.

Don't get me wrong here.

You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to
like you.

But if you think that treating a woman well
means "always getting her approval and permission
for things", think again.

You will never succeed by looking for approval.
Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their
approval.

Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if
Wussy guys who chase her around and want her
approval annoy her...

MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection With
Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a
nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had
her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her
even HALF as well as you did?

If you're like me, then you've had it happen a
LOT.

Well guess what?

It's only NATURAL when this happens...

That's right, I said NATURAL.

When you do these things, you send a clear
message:

"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so
I'm going to try to buy your attention and
affection".

Your good intentions usually come across to
women as over-compensation for insecurity, and
weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I
said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

MISTAKE #5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early In
The Relationship With Her

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most
men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too
early on.

Attractive women are rare.

And they get a LOT of attention from men.

Most men don't realize this, but attractive
women are being approached in one way or another
ALL THE TIME by men.

An attractive woman is often approached several
times a DAY by men who are interested. This
translate into dozens of times per week, and often
HUNDREDS of times per month.

And guess what?

Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of
men.

That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

They know what to expect.

And one thing that turns an attractive women
off and sends her running away faster than just
about anything is a guy who starts saying "You
know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two
dates.

This signals to the woman that you're just like
all the other guys who fall for her too fast...
and can't control themselves.

Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.

There's a much better way...

MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works For
Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes
to ATTRACTION.

You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

When a man sees a beautiful woman
he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.

But does the same apply for women?

Do women feel sexual attraction to men based
mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?

Well, after studying this topic for over five
full years now, I can tell you that women usually
have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by
things OTHER than looks.

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more
average and unattractive men with beautiful women
than the other way around?

Think about it.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities
in men... and they're more attracted to the way a man
makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

If you know how to use your body language and
communication correctly, you can make women feel
the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you
that YOU feel when you see a beautiful young
woman.

But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how
to do this.

And ANY guy can learn how...

MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make
is giving up before they've even gotten started...
because they think that attractive women are only
interested in men who have looks and money... or
guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a
certain age.

And sure, there are some women who are only
interested in these things.

But MOST women are far more interested in a
man's personality than his wallet or his looks.

There are personality traits that attract women
like a magnet...

And if you learn what they are and how to use
them, YOU can be one of these guys.

YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just
because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.

Let me say this again: If you know how to use
your body language and communication correctly,
you can make women feel the same kind of powerful
sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you
see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women

Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look
to a woman for approval or permission.

Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys
use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.

Said differently, guys try to get women to like
them by doing whatever the woman wants.

Another bad idea...

Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can
walk all over... Women aren't attracted to
Wussies!

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each
Type Of Situation With Women

Now I'm going to blow your mind...

A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.

Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than
men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.

I know, it might be hard to believe. But for
example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and
you want to kiss her, she knows it.

And if you don't know exactly what to do and
exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there
looking at her and getting nervous, she won't
help!

And this goes for ALL aspects of women and
dating...

Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking
her out, kissing her, getting physical...
everything.

If you don't know what to do in each situation,
you will probably screw it up... and LOSE
EVERYTHING.

And you KNOW it.

It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY
how to go from one step to the next with a
woman... from the first meeting, all the way to
the bedroom.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all.

This is the mistake that keeps most men from
EVER having the kind of success with women that
they truly want.

I know, guys don't like to make themselves look
weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.

Hey, I've been there myself.

Let me tell you a little about me and how I
figured out how to be successful with women...

About five years ago I became fed up with the
fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and
get dates with women that I was attracted to.

It frustrated the hell out of me.

One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a
woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get
up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that
night... right on the spot I made the decision to
do whatever it took to learn how to be successful
with women and dating.

Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all
kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all
out.

I can now approach just about any woman and get
her number almost instantly. I've dated models,
I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal,
regular girls as well.

It has been a very rewarding experience. I no
longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I
don't know how to meet women... and I might wind
up alone.

I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and
meet attractive women.

Jaime Santamaria

Jaime Santamaria is a master attracting and seducing women. Best known by his world famous system "P30 DATES SYSTEM" (Written in English) where he teaches the men to obtain dates with beautiful women using internet.

He is a famous Pick Up Artist (PUA) in Spanish talked countries. One of his works was translated to English language ("P30 DATES SYSTEM"). He has told that his masters have been Ross Jeffries, David Deangelo and Mystery. He is known by some
works:

English:

"P30 DATES SYSTEM"

Spanish:

"COMO CONOCER Y LLEVAR A LA CAMA A MUJERES CON LAS QUE NUNCA HABIAS SOÑADO"
"SISTEMA DE CITAS P30"
"COMO HABLAR DE SEXO CON CUALQUIER MUJER"

He was born on March 29th in 1978.

He has a famous blog:

zonaseduccion.blogspot.com

He has more than 10.000 people in their facebook groups.

Neil Strauss

Neil Strauss (also known by his pen names Style or Chris Powles), is an American author, journalist and ghostwriter. He is known best for his best-selling book The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, where he reports his journey to the seduction community to become a pick-up artist. He is a contributing editor at Rolling Stone and also writes regularly for The New York Times.

Biography

After finishing a private Chicago high school, the Latin School of Chicago, Strauss attended Vassar College. He began his career writing for Ear, an avant-garde magazine, before moving on to the Village Voice, where he did everything from copy-editing to fact-checking. He was invited by Jon Pareles[3] to become a music critic at The New York Times, where he wrote the Pop Life column. He was then invited by Jann Wenner to become a contributing editor at Rolling Stone where he wrote cover stories on Kurt Cobain, Madonna, Tom Cruise, Orlando Bloom, the Wu-Tang Clan, Gwen Stefani and Marilyn Manson. He won the ASCAP Deems Taylor Award for his coverage of Kurt Cobain's suicide for Rolling Stone and his profile of Eric Clapton in The New York Times Arts & Leisure section. He was also featured in Beck's music video Sexx Laws which also featured Jack Black.

Neil Strauss was a co-writer or ghostwriter of several best-selling books for various celebrities, including The Long Hard Road Out Of Hell with Marilyn Manson, The Dirt with Mötley Crüe, How to Make Love Like a Porn Star: A Cautionary Tale with Jenna Jameson, and Don't Try This At Home with Dave Navarro.

After leaving The New York Times to ghostwrite the memoir of Jameson, Strauss authored The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists (Regan Books, 2005), a book about a sub-culture of pick-up artists known as the seduction community. The book made a month-long appearance in the New York Times bestsellers list in September-October 2005, and reached the #1 position on Amazon.com immediately after its release in the United States.

His follow-up book, a controversial graphic novel How to Make Money Like a Porn Star, came out in 2006 on September 26. By 2006 Neil Strauss also came out with "Shoot", a short film about becoming a rockstar that he co-wrote, directed and performed in. In 2007, he released a follow-up to The Game, Rules of the Game, a two-book boxed set.

His newest book, Emergency: This Book Will Save Your Life (Harper, 2009), for which he spent three years undercover amongst survivalists, tax-dodgers, billionaire businessmen, and the government itself, was hailed by Rolling Stone as an "escape plan" for the current world crisis.

Seduction community

In the seduction community, Strauss is known by the pseudonym "Style" (also known as "Chris Powles").[citation needed] In 2004 he published an article in the New York Times about his experiences. Even though he claims in his book "The Game" that it took him two years to become named in a blog as the world's greatest pick-up artist he was involved in the community at least from 1998 when he posted on the old version of the newsgroup alt.seduction.fast under the name Chris Powles.

The Game

In The Game, Strauss tells the tale of his transformation into "Style", a pickup artist under the tutelage of Mystery. The book charts two years in his life and contends that the first time Strauss was involved in the community was near the times that Mystery had his first pickup-workshop back in 2001, which Strauss attended. In reality the first time Neil Strauss had been involved in the community was back in 1998 when he had posted on the old version of seduction-site asf under the name Chris Powles.[citation needed] The places and characters were made a bit off in the book to make the story more entertaining and easier to follow.[citation needed] For example, the character "Extramask" in the book never attended the first Mystery workshop that Neil Strauss attended, and the first pick-up summit mentioned in the book, was actually the second annual pickup-summit.[citation needed] In addition to documenting his experiences with pickup artists like Mystery and Ross Jeffries, it also describes his interactions with celebrities including Britney Spears, Tom Cruise, and Courtney Love. Strauss writes of his distrust of pickup artists "Tyler Durden" and "Papa", the co-founders of Real Social Dynamics. In promoting his book, Strauss appeared on various TV shows, including The View and ABC Primetime, and he participated in many book signings.

After publishing the book, Strauss temporarily retired as a pickup artist and settled with a long-term girlfriend Lisa Leveridge, who played guitar in Courtney Love's all-female band The Chelsea. An article in the Sunday Mirror, suggested that Leveridge broke up with Strauss in February 2006 to date Robbie Williams. Strauss denied the Williams rumor, but confirmed his breakup with Leveridge on his mailing list a few months later.

Annihilation Method

In Late 2005, Strauss passed his knowledge, which he has titled the "Annihilation Method", to 5 selected followers at a three-day seminar at his California home. In June 2006 he sold 375 exclusive copies of the "Annihilation Method" program to those who arrived first on his website, only375.com for the staggering price of $3,799. Strauss completed an interview with the popular seduction blog The Attraction Chronicles in mid-June 2006 that helped to give members of the community a glimpse into his goals and future influence in the seduction community. Strauss recently held a private reunion teleconference (Oct 12, 2007) with the men known as the "375" to see how they'd progressed in their lives. Rather than a single technique, The Annihilation Method is a collection of Neil Strauss' most successful routines, openers and techniques.

Stylelife

Through his VIP mailing list, Strauss announced the Stylelife Challenge on May 31, 2006. The challenge was for those who have trouble with women to get a date in 30 days or less. During the entire month of July 2006, participants were given daily challenges on the Stylelife. These challenges were designed to help men makeover their look, overcome their fears, and get a date within a month. While the primary goal was simply for participants to get a date, the most improved won a week-end in San Diego with the famous Inner Game guru "Hypnotica" (see "Rasputin" in the Game). The Grand prize winner was "Taste".

On March 10, 2007, through his VIP mailing list, Strauss announced the Stylelife Academy, which he describes as the first online school for self-improvement and attraction. Enrolled students study a variety of subjects ranging from mind-shaping, to body language, to story telling, to being a good conversationalist in daily online classes.

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Collection of openers and Routines

PUA = Pick Up Artist

Masturbate in Shower

PUA: Did you know that 93% of girls masturbate in the shower?
Her: No
PUA: The other 7% sing
Her: Oh yeah?
PUA: And do you know what they sing?
Her: No, what?
PUA: Oh you must be one of the girls that masturbates then.
Her: HAHAHA

Jealous Cat

My friend has been going out with a girl for about three months and they get along really well, they love each other heaps, but her cat hates him. Like whenever he tries to pet it, it will just look at him like he's an idiot and walk off and one time he left his shoes by the door and it pissed on them. What do you think he should do? ...

David Deangelo (About him)

Eben W. Pagan,born December 5, 1971, in Brooklyn, New York City, better known by his stage name David DeAngelo, is an American entrepreneur, author and dating consultant. He is a member of the Seduction community and founder of "Double Your Dating"

Early in his career, DeAngelo moved from the Pacific Northwest to continue his career as a real estate and mortgage broker in San Diego, but first found real success in training real estate professionals how to use direct marketing to build sales leads. While building this business, DeAngelo set out to build his skills at meeting women through a number of avenues, including seeking the counsel of "naturals" (men who are naturally good with women) and students of women such as Hypnotica (Eric Von Sydow) Steve Piccus, Dave Riker, Rick H, and as a protégé of Ross Jeffries. During this period, DeAngelo went by the on-line nickname "Sisonpyh" (hypnosis spelled backwards, invoking the Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) emphasis of Jeffries' teachings), and the offline handle "Brother Eben"[citation needed]. For reasons which are in dispute, DeAngelo eventually disassociated himself from Jeffries and his teachings[citation needed], and on December 17, 2000 propounded his own schema in a seminal post on "Cliff's List," an internet dating newsletter.

Finally switching to the handle "David DeAngelo" in 2001, he released an updated, expanded, and somewhat more conventional version of the post as the ebook Double Your Dating, at the time the sole product of the eponymous company he ran by himself from the bedroom of his oceanside apartment in San Diego. Since then, DeAngelo has released many products aimed at helping men with dating, with titles such as the Advanced Dating series, 77 Laws of Success With Women and Dating, Deep Inner Game, and Meeting Women Online. DeAngelo claimed in July 2007 that he employs two hundred people, all working remotely, and that his various product lines (Double Your Dating, Catch Him & Keep Him, GetAltitude, Fire Your Wedding Planner, and others) now gross close to 20 million annually in sales.[citation needed]

DeAngelo runs an e-mail newsletter which is distributed to over 1 million subscribers.

DeAngelo argues that much human social behavior is related in some way to sexual reproduction, and that human mating habits do not differ significantly from other species.

He suggests that societal conditioning has programmed many modern men to develop involuntary habits that increase the failure rate of consistently attracting women or negate the attractive qualities that were designed to make women want them. "Pickup lines cause you to lose before you even begin" since they "don't usually elicit positive and rewardful responses; instead they breed negative reactions."

DeAngelo states in one of his advanced dating technique seminars that people can use his techniques to achieve a variety of goals, whether that goal is to have casual sex or to form more lasting relationships.David DeAngelo, as a member of the Seduction Community as a whole, often comes under fire by men and women who advocate "just being yourself", but is just as strongly defended by his proponents who argue that these opinions are based on ignorance of his actual material.

One of his beliefs is that being intellectual doesn't automatically equal success with women, but that such success can be acquired.

DeAngelo contends most men lack a deep understanding of women, and are thus at a loss to attract the ones they desire. As a result, men are forced to accept whomever selects them.

DeAngelo also believes that women are not as obsessed with the appearance of prospective mates as men are.Further, he contends that typical male courting gambits such as excessive flattery and gifting are seen by women as manipulative and insecure, and are thus ultimately unattractive. Instead, he contends that "attraction isn't a choice" -- women cannot be bribed into choosing to feel attraction. Rather, DeAngelo asserts that a woman will feel attraction automatically when she perceives a man to have certain characteristics such as confidence, lightheartedness, humor and independence, qualities he labels "cocky and funny" or "cocky funny."

Thus, while a typical man might hope to appeal to a desirable woman with obsequiousness and unbridled enthusiasm, carefully hiding any reservations he might have about her, a "cocky and funny" one would actually make his reservations abundantly clear from the outset, albeit flirtatiously and with humor.

Used terms

* The Inner Wuss: a character trait of men developed through time that causes them to become submissive around women in order to get their approval. DeAngelo claims that women prefer men who are of higher status than they (see also Nice guy).
* Cocky and funny: also known as 'cocky comedy' can be called flirting, this refers to combination of arrogance and humor. A humorous mock arrogance intended to communicate with intelligence and being 'a challenge'. DeAngelo points out that it is important to get the balance right, as just using 'cocky' "comes across as insecure, and comedy alone usually comes across as goofy and dumb." "Cocky and Funny" is often abbreviated as "C&F."
* Counterintuitive behavior: DeAngelo's description of some of his techniques to attract women, as they are the opposite of what most people think is attractive. Examples of such behavior include teasing a woman offhandedly and refusing to compliment her appearance. Can also be phrased as Don't behave in a boring or predictable way.
* Life changes: DeAngelo reiterates that the purpose of his programs is to effect a complete personality and lifestyle change among men that will help them achieve dating success.
* Emulate the Successful: DeAngelo encourages the following and emulation of those successful with women. He records interviews with those very successful in dating and releases them monthly as part of a subscription service.
* Sexual Communication: DeAngelo's principle of a 'secret mating language' or 'secret mating dance' that takes place between a man and a woman before they can mate.
* Reframing: Restructuring one's own beliefs set into a new one, such as changing self-doubt to positive thinking.



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Mystery (Technique and contributions)

Mystery is credited with coining a number of terms and concepts in the seduction community. These concepts are borrowed from evolutionary psychology and theatrical showmanship, and his experience as a magician. Some terms Mystery is credited for include:

* Set - A group of two or more people which a man would have to approach and befriend in order to be able to woo his "target" girl. "Beautiful women are rarely found alone."

* Peacocking - Dressing to stand out, or to have an item of clothing or an accessory that looks interesting, allowing the girl to comment on it if she is interested in starting a conversation with you.

* The 3-second Rule - If you see a girl you are interested in, you must approach her within three seconds or you will over-think things and create too much approach anxiety, and you will risk her seeing you staring at her.

* Neg - A backhanded compliment intended to snub a potential mate ("target"), telegraph a lack of interest ("false disqualification"), encourage the target to prove her worth ("qualify"), and simultaneously disarm 'obstacles' such as protective male or female friends.

Though seminars and workshops on seduction technique preceded his involvement, Mystery is credited with introducing "in-field" workshops, in which small groups of students were appraised on their technique as they approached unaffiliated women in bars and nightclubs. Mystery himself has trained many of the most notable and most respected instructors from the world's top dating companies, many of which still teach his methods with their own personal "twist"

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Mystery (biography)

Mystery is the stage name and alter-ego of Canadian author and entertainer Erik von Markovik (born Erik James Horvat-Markovic on September 24, 1971). An innovator in the seduction community, he is one of the main characters in the non-fiction book The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists by his then-student Neil Strauss. He was featured in the 2007 VH1 reality television series The Pick-up Artist, finished its second season. Mystery is the self-proclaimed "world's greatest pick-up artist" and was introduced as the "world's most successful pick-up artist" during the premiere of his VH1 show.

The persona of Mystery was created by Erik von Markovik in the late 1990s for his mentalist act, entitled "Natural Magic". He has performed magic shows in many locations, including Toronto, Las Vegas, and Hollywood. The name Mystery was also used by von Markovik as his internet nickname and nom de plume. He is the author of The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed, published by St. Martin's Press.

A self-proclaimed "late bloomer", Mystery admits that he spent the early years of his life playing Dungeons and Dragons and having limited to no success with women until his early twenties. But his desire to love and be loved by women drove him to go out to nightclubs night after night, practicing and experimenting various ways to engage people in social interactions. Over a ten year period of trial and error, "and many, MANY rejections"[citation needed], Mystery created what has evolved into what is known as one of his Love Systems (previously known as the Mystery Method). By closely examining how people engage each other during the "courtship" phase of a relationship and combining these observations with various theories from evolutionary psychology, he created a system of techniques and strategies developed to help men become better at engaging women in various social situations such as bars, clubs, coffee shops, and the like. He shared his theories on an internet newsgroup, alt.seduction.fast, and became famous for his analytical approach to the field of seduction, as well as his in-depth "field reports".

Mystery instructed and then befriended author Neil Strauss, who went on to become Mystery's 'wingman', and ultimately a mentor in the seduction community himself. Together with a number of other former students, Mystery and Strauss shared a large residence in Hollywood ('Project Hollywood'), which soon became a central point for aspiring students. The friendship is recorded in Strauss's book The Game.

In 2004, Mystery went into a partnership with fellow dating coach Nick Savoy to form Mystery Method Corporation, although Mystery himself stopped teaching at regular programs in mid-2005. Nevertheless, the company continued to grow, and added approximately a dozen other instructors until late 2006, when Mystery left to form his own company, called Venusian Arts. Mystery Method Corporation continued on without him with most of the same instructors, and has since changed its name to Love Systems.

On April 11, 2007, Mystery appeared on the television show Late Night with Conan O'Brien to promote his book The Mystery Method: How to get Beautiful Women into Bed. Mystery explained concepts such as going "in field", "peacocking", the structure of a pick-up, and the importance of not telegraphing interest when approaching a group of people. He has since been invited back for a second guest spot.[citation needed]

Mystery has also been featured in a number of magazines, newspapers, and interviews.

On August 6, 2007, the series premiere of Mystery's television show The Pick-up Artist aired on VH1 transforming him almost overnight into a pop icon in the United States. So much so that the “Brian Williams/Feist” episode of Saturday Night Live on November 3, 2007 started with a sketch in which Darrell Hammond played Bill Clinton at a Halloween party, dressed up as Mystery. The show was successful enough to warrant a second season, which premiered on October 12, 2008.



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