“The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women— And What To Do About It...” Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women—And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes... -By David DeAngelo, Author Of “Double Your Dating” MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy” Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys? Of course you have. Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU. What's going on here? It's actually very simple... Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. And guess what? Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you. I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT. Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want. MISTAKE #2: Trying To “Convince Her To Like You" What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just notinterested? Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently. Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION! Never, ever, EVER. You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning". Think about it. If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her? But we all do it. When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind. Bad idea. One that will never work. MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission". Another HORRIBLE idea. Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER. Don't get me wrong here. You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you. But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again. You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval. Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her... To sign up for my free three-times-a-week newsletter AND download your copy of this online eBook, just go here: •Free Newsletter And Download eBook• MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did? If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT. Well guess what? It's only NATURAL when this happens... That's right, I said NATURAL. When you do these things, you send a clear message: "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection". Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION. MISTAKE #5: Sharing “How You Feel” Too Early In The Relationship With Her Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on. Attractive women are rare. And they get a LOT of attention from men. Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month. And guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men. That's right. They have EXPERIENCE. They know what to expect. And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates. This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves. Don't do it. Lean back. Relax. There's a much better way... MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction. But does the same apply for women? Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on? Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks. Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around? Think about it. Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone. If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman. But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this. And ANY guy can learn how... MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age. And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things. But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks. There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet... And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys. YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome. Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman. MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission. Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women. Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants. Another bad idea... Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies! MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women Now I'm going to blow your mind... A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking. Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES. I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it. And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help! And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating... Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything. If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING. And you KNOW it. It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom. MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP This is the biggest mistake of all. This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want. I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help. Hey, I've been there myself. Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women... About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to. It frustrated the hell out of me. One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating. Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out. I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well. It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone. I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women. I've written a book on the topic, and I've done seminars on both coasts of the United States... and taught tens of thousands of men all around the world. I Now Have A FREE, Three-Times- A-Week Email Newsletter... ...But the REALLY GREAT news is that I now publish a free email newsletter three times a week that teaches any guy how to increase his success with women DRAMATICALLY. And I'd like to invite you to sign up. It's free, there's no obligation, I'll never share your email address with anyone, and you can easily remove yourself anytime with no hassles (and no, I'll never pull any of these tricks where I send you a bunch of unwanted junk email when you try to remove yourself). Of course, it even get's better than that... In addition to my free email newsletter, I also have a killer downloadable eBook that you can download right now and be reading in literally MINUTES from right now. 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I now believe that ANY man can be more successful with women and dating, and I get emails every day with success stories from guys who are using this program to meet and date wonderful women. I know, I know... an ebook that can teach a regular guy how to be more successful in the dating world? No way. Well believe me, this program will DRAMATICALLY increase your success with women... I absolutely guarantee it 100%. If you'd like to take your success with women and dating to the next level, and have the kind of success that you've always wanted, then go sign up for my free newsletter, get all the details, and check out some great free samples of the eBook located here: Free Newsletter And Download eBook And I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David DeAngelo P.S. Do some friends a favor, and FORWARD this article to their email addresses. 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What Women HATE Most About Single Guys By David DeAngelo If you listen to a group of attractive, single women talking alone over dinner or drinks, the topic will always turn to MEN. And in most cases, it will eventually turn into a RANT session about how hard it is to find good men to date... Which will lead to a FULL-ON RAG SESSION about men in general... ...And wind up with a detailed list of all the traits guys have that are ANNOYING AS HELL. The reality is that single women have an entire laundry list of traits, qualities, and characteristics that they HATE in single guys. Did you know this? I didn't think so. Well, the truth is that up until a few years ago, I didn't know this either. So take heart in the idea that you're about to learn something that most men on this planet will DIE not knowing. My hope is that what I'm about to share with you will change how you interact with women FOREVER... and help you meet and date more of the kinds of women you're interested in. Onward. FRIENDSHIPS AND ROMANCE For women, friendships and romantic relationships are two separate things. They are NOT the same. One can lead to another, but it's RARE when it happens. Remember that. One CAN lead to another, but it's RARE. "Romantic" relationships are very different from "friend" relationships. While most men would sleep with most of their female "friends" if the woman "came on" to them, most women would NOT sleep with most men that they consider "just friends". But why is this? How do women differentiate between "just friends" and "I'll be intimate with you"? And why is it so hard to become "more than friends" with a woman you've been "just friends" with for a long time? The answer to this riddle is very interesting to me. I believe that the answer comes down to understanding HOW women "know" when they want to "be intimate" with a man... and, even MORE importantly, understanding how women "know" when they DON'T want to "be intimate" with a man... The thing that tells a woman whether the guy she's with is "friend" material or "lover" material is how she FEELS. It's a combination of EMOTIONAL feelings and PHYSICAL feelings. It is NOT logic. She might USE logic to "rationalize" her decision... or she might USE logic to SOUND like she has a good reason for either "being with" or "not being with" a particular guy. But don't let that distract you. Logic isn't important AT ALL in this context. So let me say this another way. A woman FEELS something emotionally and/or physically, then she uses those FEELINGS as the basis for her "decisions" and actions with a particular guy. If she feels that "Ewwww Yuck!" feeling, then her "logical" conclusion will probably not be that she wants to date the guy in question. If she feels that "It's Gettin' Hot In Here" feeling, then her "logical" conclusion will probably be that this guy is interesting and attractive, and a good "choice" to date. At this point she'll take ACTION on her feelings and thoughts... It goes like this: FEEL--->THINK--->ACT First the FEELING, then the THOUGHT... and THEN the action. Now, with this in mind, let me ask you an important question: How do most guys behave around women that they're "romantically" interested in? And another: What do they do to get the woman that's the object of their desires to be with them? Take a few minutes to think about this. Make a list if you have paper and pen handy. I'm serious. I'll wait. Come back when you're finished. Now take a look at your list. I'll bet that almost every single thing on your list was something "external". In other words, your list probably contains things like "Take her to dinner" and "Give her compliments" and "Buy her flowers" and "Call her often". These are all things that demonstrate that he's INTERESTED. They are NOT things that trigger those emotional and physical feelings inside of a woman that tell her that THIS IS THE GUY. In other words, men try to use "props" to LET A WOMAN KNOW HE'S INTERESTED... ...HOPING that when the woman sees these displays she'll be interested in him. Almost NONE of the things men do to court women make women FEEL ANYTHING even remotely similar to "Attraction" and "Arousal". Of course, you know this. You've probably done this stuff about a bazillion times. I have, too. I know what it's like to try OVER AND OVER to let a particular woman know that I'm interested... only to have her NOT RESPOND in a "romantic" way. The PROBLEM with this kind of thing is that it makes TWO HUGE MISTAKES at once. First, it's just the plain-old wrong way to go. Telling or showing a woman that you "like her" has no effect on how she feels about YOU. In the moment it sure seems to make sense... "If I show her how I feel, she'll return the feelings". Duh. Like I said, it seems like the right thing to do in the moment (when your inner little girl has a big fat crush). But it's not... it will have NO effect on her feelings for you. And second, it communicates clearly that YOU DON'T GET IT. It tips a woman off INSTANTLY that you're not hip to what's going... and it kills your chances with her. Say what? You mean that doing nice things for women, and trying to show how you feel can actually HURT your chances with a woman? Yea, it can. Look, if you've been dating a woman exclusively for six months, and her birthday comes... it's OK to buy her a gift and tell her that you like spending time with her. YOU'RE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP. But if you've known a woman for six DAYS and you try this kind of thing, you're going to shoot yourself in the foot. Women are EXPERTS at recognizing men who DON'T GET IT. And if you DON'T get it, PLUS you're trying to compensate for the fact that you don't get it with gifts and compliments, then you're REALLY screwed (or not screwed, as the case may be). Remember what I'm about to tell you. Burn it into your mind. Write it on a sticky-note and put it on your computer monitor... SINGLE, ATTRACTIVE WOMEN WATCH MEN TRY TO WIN THEM OVER ALL DAY LONG. THEY KNOW WHEN A GUY DOESN'T "GET IT"... AND THEY'RE ANNOYED WHEN A GUY WHO DOESN'T "GET IT" JUST KEEPS TRYING AND TRYING AND TRYING. Keep in mind that single, attractive women watch guys do this stuff 24/7. They shake their pretty heads and say "He doesn't get it... He doesn't get it... He doesn't get it" over and over and over. The point is that if you DON'T GET IT, then nothing you do is going to work for you. The problem is bigger than you can imagine, and you're going to need to take a totally different road to get where you're going... WHAT ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HATE MOST ABOUT SINGLE GUYS... Let's return to where we started. There are a few particular things that REALLY annoy single, attractive women. One of the reasons that these things annoy women is because they're DEAL KILLERS. A woman can like everything about you, but if you do these things (or even ONE of these things), it can DESTROY your chances of success with a particular woman. Here are a few of the BIG things that single women hate: 1) Giving Up Your Status In Exchange For Her Attention And Approval If I had to describe the one single thing that both annoys women and DESTROYS a guy's chances, it would be this. It has taken me a long time to see this particular pattern, but it's EVERYWHERE. Men, in effect, say "Hi, I want your approval and attention. I'm willing to let YOU be the one who's in control... and let YOU call the shots... and do anything to please YOU... if you'll give me your attention and approval". But the problem is that women DON'T WANT you to give up your status and "manliness". Women aren't ATTRACTED to men who act weak and tentative. Women secretly HATE IT when a guy does something to demonstrate that he'll give away his power in return for approval. THEY HATE IT! I could literally write an entire book on this one single concept. Take a few minutes to think this one over, and maybe write down the ways that you make this mistake with women. More importantly, think about how you're going to STOP DOING IT IMMEDIATELY. 2) Being Needy, Clingy, And Insecure When one person "clings" to another person "psychologically", the person who is being "clinged to" RESENTS and REJECTS the needy, clingy emotional parasite... This is WUSS behavior at its worst. If a guy is on the phone with a girl he just met, and she says "Hey, I have to go", he might say "Aw, well... um... OK. Um, will you call me when you get home?". Or let's say a guy and a girl are out on their first date, and they're walking around in a large department store. Most guys will follow the woman everywhere, and not leave her side for a minute. If she wanders away, he'll come find her IMMEDIATELY. He'll stay physically close to her, as if he's afraid she'll leave without him. And an even worse example is a guy who is so emotionally insecure that he actually ASKS a woman to tell him that he's nice, fun, interesting, etc. "Do you think I'm interesting?" "Do you think we could ever have a relationship?" "Am I your type?" Women HATE this stuff. It makes them shiver with the heebie-jeebies. It makes them want to RUN AWAY. 3) Not Leading - And Even Worse, Trying To Get Her To Lead Women have WUSS-DAR. One of the things that triggers a woman's WUSS-DAR is a man who FOLLOWS. The REAL problem is that most women won't try to LEAD naturally. So you've got a situation where a man is trying to FOLLOW a woman who isn't LEADING. He's looking for little cues so he knows where to go and what to do... but he isn't getting them. So what does he do? He ASKS for them! He says "So, I was thinking of maybe taking you to Olive Garden for dinner... how does that sound?". Everything about the way he asks says to the woman "I'm trying to figure out what you want me to do... please help me know how you want me to act, where you want me to take you, and what you want me to say". This is ATTRACTION DEATH! men who don't lead, and even worse, try to get a woman to lead, ANNOY THE HELL OUT OF SINGLE WOMEN. They HATE IT! 4) Using Insecure, Approval-Seeking, Low-Status Posture, Gestures, Voice Tone, And Body Language There's a term that single, attractive, in-demand women use to describe men who use weak, approval-seeking posture, gestures, comments, and mannerisms... The term is "NICE". "He's nice... but... there's no chemistry." This is one of those areas that's not easy to talk about. Since SO DAMN MANY GUYS do this stuff, it's almost impossible to explain. It's like trying to tell a fish that they're not going to get anywhere in life if they stay wet. The fish doesn't even KNOW it's wet in the first place. But let me try. This is important. Go spend a day observing couples. Go places where couples that have just met spend time together. Bars, clubs, coffee shops, whatever. Now watch the GUYS. Watch how they lean towards the women. Watch how they raise their eyebrows in exaggerated response to women's comments. Watch how they slump over, let their shoulders fall forward, and smile fake-ly at whatever the women say. If you're close enough, listen to how men ask questions and make comments with a voice tone that says "I'm insecure and I'm trying to be extra nice to compensate for it". You'll see it EVERYWHERE. In fact, you'll see it so much that you'll probably write me back to tell me that I'm the one who's crazy, and that since it happens so much, it must be "the right way". Well, it's not. If there's one thing that triggers an attractive single woman's WUSS-DAR, it's a man's posture, gestures, eye contact, voice tone, etc. It all happens in an INSTANT. Women read this stuff and interpret it as instantly and accurately as you read and interpret the cover of Playboy. NO ANALYSIS NECESSARY. I'd say that probably 90% of all men alive today INSTANTLY disqualify themselves with women because of this problem. Their voice tone, gestures, posture, etc. TELEGRAPH the message that they're a WUSS. They do a thousand weird little things to let a woman know that they're uncomfortable and "not being themselves". And you guessed it... Single women HATE IT! 5) Not Understanding That She's A Woman And You're A Man I'm about to get philosophical on your ass, so be cool. When it comes down to it, most men don't understand women. But the REAL kicker is that most men don't understand MEN, either! Most guys don't know what it's like to get in touch with their MALE NATURE. Combine these two issues, and you get a guy who behaves in ways that DO NOT trigger ATTRACTION in women. Women have a "nature". A female nature. Men also have a "nature". You guessed it, it's a MALE nature. Women are coy. They like to play hard to get. They like to enjoy the chase. They love anticipation. They love to "let a guy catch them"... Men are competitive. Men are dominant. Men like to play rough games, win things, and rule their territory. Well guess what? Most men don't BEHAVE like men when they're in the presence of a woman that they "like". And since most men don't understand female human nature, they don't demonstrate that they "get it" when they're with women that they "like". Women like men. Men like women. There are POWERFUL causes at play here. When you're around a woman you like, don't act like a GIRLY-MAN. It's not sexy, and it's not attractive... And single women HATE IT! 6) Not Being Interesting To Be Around Underneath most behavior that I see most guys acting out is a "core belief" that goes like this: "I don't believe that an attractive woman would want to be around me just because she enjoys my presence... so I make up for it by saying and doing certain things that I hope she'll enjoy... and if she enjoys those other things enough, then maybe she'll want to spend more time with me." Heavy, man. Well guess what? Most attractive single women KNOW that if a guy isn't interesting to be around, they she's eventually going to go CRAZY being around him. In other words, no amount of material gifts, compliments, dinners, and other "displays" will EVER compensate for a lack of BEING INTERESTING. Here's a profound thought: I and several other guys I know have many women who call us often... just because they enjoy being around us. These women would be happy just to be in the same room with us... and enjoy our company. And yes, these women CALL US. Often. Material gifts, food, flowers, and other "displays" have ZERO lasting value to a woman when it comes to how she FEELS about you... An attractive single woman wants a guy who LIGHTS HER UP. She wants to FEEL GOOD. She wants mystery... she wants to laugh... she wants a challenge... she wants sexual tension... If you're using compliments, gifts, food, and other "displays" to get a woman's attention... you need to ask yourself a tough question: Is it because you don't believe that a woman would want to be around you just to be around you? Because if you don't know how to be INTERESTING to a woman, then no amount of compensation is going to fix the problem. If you're boring, predictable, and uninteresting, then you're never going to have women calling YOU to hang out. Oh, and women HATE IT. 7) Not Understanding Attraction This is a BIGGIE. You hear me talking about it all the time, right? Maybe now that you've read this newsletter you'll have a better context to understand what I'm about to tell you... If you "get it" with women, it's SUPER INTERESTING and ATTRACTIVE to them. Women can INSTANTLY FEEL IT when they're with a guy who "gets it". Women know very quickly if they're talking to a guy who understands himself and women... and who enjoys creating and building sexual tension. Women know if a guy speaks the SECRET LANGUAGE of "Sexual Communication". If he doesn't, then she stops all communication on that level. If he does, then it continues. ATTRACTION Isn't A Choice. Attraction is an emotional and physical RESPONSE... and you can't "convince" a woman to feel it with logic, gifts, and NICENESS. Attraction is the result of a woman meeting a man who understands how attraction works... and who knows what to do in each specific situation to progress to the next level. The PROBLEM with ATTRACTION, and with success with women in general is that the things you need to DO to be successful are NOT OBVIOUS. They're "counter intuitive", in many cases. In other words, they're the OPPOSITE of what you'd THINK would make sense. You have to do things like CREATE TENSION... stop doing something that she likes... give her time to miss you... etc. And if you don't understand ATTRACTION, a woman is going to KNOW IT. And guess what? Single women HATE IT when a man doesn't understand ATTRACTION and how to communicate on this "other level". Now that I've shared the mistakes, you need the next piece of the puzzle. You need to get an education on how attraction works for women... and the RIGHT things to do up front to give her those emotional/physical feelings inside. Right now you're probably feeling that excited "Ah Ha!" feeling. That's because you understand something at a different level... you've used your mind to understand something complex... and you feel good about bettering yourself. Well this is just the TIP of the iceberg. As educational as this has been, this is only the beginning. If you're starting to realize how important it is to get this area of your life handled, then I recommend you make a commitment and take your education to a WORLD CLASS level. And what's the best way to do that? Well, I've spent the last several years of my life figuring out exactly what does and doesn't work with women. I figured this stuff out for MYSELF... and then I took what I've learned and put it all together to help others learn as well. My Double Your Dating eBook represents THOUSANDS of hours of research, testing, getting to know guys who were successful with women, and generally organizing every level of this knowledge into an easy-to-understand system that ANY guy can use to increase his success with women and dating. And I'll tell you something... It works. This eBook is the most advanced and effective program of it's kind available anywhere at ANY price. And I have an offer that you're not likely to find repeated anywhere else... I'll send it to you at MY RISK. You can try it out for a full 7 days, and if you don't see MASSIVE results, just let me know... and pay nothing. That's right, you can try it FREE for 7 days. On top of all that, I'd like to invite you to sign up for my free, 3-times-weekly dating tips newsletter. There's no obligation, and you can easily remove yourself anytime. And believe me, I hate spam as much as you do. You don't have to worry about me ever sharing your email address with anyone. Go here to download my eBook and to sign up: • Free Dating Tips Newsletter And Download eBook • And I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David DeAngelo ________________________________________________________________ © 2001-2008 David DeAngelo Communications Inc, All Rights Reserved." Double Your Dating" and "David DeAngelo" are trademarks used by David DeAngelo Communications Inc.

How To Get A Woman's Phone Number And Email Address Within Three Minutes Of Meeting Her By David DeAngelo Let me start off by telling you something interesting: I've personally stopped focusing on just getting phone numbers. I've found that EMAIL addresses are far better (I still get the phone number too, of course). Let me explain. I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of years ago. If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her number in about a minute or two (if I'm in a hurry). I found out later, after working like a mad scientist on this that GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESNT'T EQUAL SUCCESS. You see, women have many different reasons for giving out their phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot of men call them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are actually interested. But the universal feedback that I get from men, and in my personal experience, women act different on the phone than they do in person. When you call a woman for the first time, she'll often start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude. It's almost like she's a different person than the one you met. I've found that getting an EMAIL address is not only easier, but it gets more positive responses later on. It's almost as if women appreciate it that you've taken the time to think about what you're going to say when you write an email to them, and they think of you more like someone they know. The other benefit of email is that it can be written and answered anytime. If you call, you have to actually reach them. But an email can be answered anytime. And I've found that emails are answered FAR more often than voicemail messages. HERE'S THE HOW TO: After I've talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I'll often say something like "Well, it was nice meeting you. I'm going to get back to my friends." They usually don't know what to do, as they're used to guys clinging to them. Most of the time, they say "It was nice meeting you too..." Then, just as I'm turning to walk away, and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say "HEY! Do you have email?" The "HEY!" is a bit surprising, and "Do you have email" is non-threatening. In fact, I'm technically asking her if she HAS email, not if she'll GIVE IT TO ME. If she says "yes," I take out a pen and paper and say "Great, write it down for me" and I have her write it down. (This is great, as I just treat the 'yes' that they give me as a yes to get it from them as well. And they've almost ALL gone along with it so far) Then AS SHE'S IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say "Write your number down there too." When you ask for email, it's very low risk for a woman, so she'll think "Fine, I'll do that." Most women will give out an email address without thinking about it, because they know that they can choose later to just not answer. The magic of asking them to write their phone number down WHILE they're in the middle of writing down their email is all about the psychology of human behavior. She's already mentally said "OK, I'll give you my email address"... and she's in the middle of writing it down. When you say "And just write your number down there too" it's only NATURAL to just write it. In other words, it's a MUCH smaller step than giving out the phone number all by itself. It took me a LONG time to figure out this simple move, but it works like magic! You will have women writing their phone numbers down without even thinking twice. Here's a great add-on to make sure you're getting a real phone number and not a pager or voicemail: As she's writing down her phone number I say "Is this a number that you actually answer?" If she looks at me and hesitates, or says that it's her "voicemail or pager number," then I say "Look, write your real number down. It's going to be OK, I'll only call you nine times a day..." They laugh and usually give me their real number. Now, if she answers my first question and says "No, I don't have email" then I bust on them and say "Well, do you have electricity?" This is a GREAT opportunity to use humor. Then I say "Well, OK then. I like email better, but I'll take your regular phone number. It's so damn hard to reach people on the phone these days." Just realize that all you have to do is ask. Like I said, I've tried all kinds of things. And I've gotten hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact sequence every time I talk to a woman and I want to get her phone number. I've gotten to the point where I can often do this in a minute or two - no kidding! Now that you know the sequence, write it down with the words and the steps, and rehearse it in your mind over and over until you know exactly what to say for each step and each response. Many guys have asked me "But what do I tell her as a reason why I want her number or email?" I've never had a woman ask me. If you ask, and they give it, then she knows why you asked. If she doesn't give it to you, then she also knew why you asked. Just assume that this is the case. If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth, assuming, calm way, you'll get a lot of emails and phone numbers. Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I prefer the Fisher Space Pen (chrome) because it's small, classy, and women love it! If you haven't signed up for my free newsletter, or downloaded your copy of my eBook, just go to: • Free Dating Tips Newsletter And Download eBook • ...and download your copy right now. Learn the secrets that thousands of my readers all over the world are using right now to meet women and get more dates. You'll learn how to approach women, how to get more dates, places to take women that are fun and FREE instead of paying for expensive dinners, how to get physical with women, and a lot more. ____________________________________________________ David DeAngelo is the author of "Double Your Dating - What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women", and has taught thousands of men how to be more successful with women and dating. _________________________________________________________________ Copyright 2008 David DeAngelo Communications Inc., All Rights Reserved. "David DeAngelo" and "Double Your Dating" are trademarks used by David DeAngelo Communications Inc.

David Deangelo - 3 "Major Mistakes" To Avoid On A Date‏

***QUESTION FROM A READER:

Hello, I am reading your book now and it's great,
the cocky guy thing is working 100%. I actually
got 5 #'s in 4 days! WOW :) Thanks! My Q is, I met
a girl online, she gave me her #, I called her we
met, got dinner, drinks, then made out! Cool
stuff! She says she is having the greatest time,
blah blah blah. When I kissed her, and made out a
little, she then says, slow down its the first
date. I felt bad for going on so fast. So I said
sorry. When we went home (2 different directions)
everything was cool, (looked like it at least) I
said, "ok, thanks, great time blah blah" the i
said "You want me to call u or u gonna call me?"
She goes "I'll call u, u call me its all good" SO
it ended good, (i think) NOW, Should I CALL HER
the next day or not?

Thanks,

K.

P.S. she wants to go out to a different town with
me for the weekend to have fun. HOW DO I ACT SO I
DONT LOOK LIKE A WUSS AND EASY TO GET GUY!??!?!?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, well ready yourself.

I'm about to do some of my "David D. Quack-
Psycho-Analysis" on you. Emphasis on the Psycho.

In a one paragraph email, you managed to tell
me about a MINIMUM of three major mistakes that
you made with this particular girl. If I really
thought about it, I could probably find another
few in there as well.

So hug your inner child and tell him that
everything is going to be OK before I verbally
abuse him...

Here are the three mistakes that I noticed
right off the bat:

1) Making out with her somewhere other than at
your house (or her house).

2) Apologizing for making out with her.

3) Asking her if you should call her, or if she
should call you.

I'll address each one in a minute in detail,
but first let me start off with some of my Quack
theories.

One of the things I say a lot is "Women Aren't
Attracted To Wussies".

I say this because:

1) It's true.

2) If you don't understand this principle, you're
likely to make mistakes that clearly "telegraph"
to a woman that you're a Wuss.

3) When it all comes down, if a woman doesn't feel
ATTRACTION for you, or you somehow manage to screw
up and KILL the ATTRACTION she's feeling... you're
done. Game over.

I think that most of us guys have these little
secret beliefs that we hide from the rest of the
world... and that we TRY to hide from women.

I was having an interesting discussion with a
good friend today, and we were talking about how
most guys act when they're around an "attractive"
woman.

Most guys do one of the following:

- Give attractive women a lot of compliments
immediately.

- Kiss up to attractive women.

- Try to get attractive women to like them by
buying them gifts, dinners and flowers.

- Chase after attractive women and let it be known
that the woman is "a prize worth pursuing" right
from the beginning.

- Hand over all of their power and status to
attractive women.

Know what I'm talking about?

Have you ever seen a guy at dinner with a
beautiful woman... and he's obviously nervous
about the whole situation... and you can tell that
he's doing everything he can to NOT screw up so he
can get the woman's approval?

Have you ever BEEN THAT GUY?

Yeah, me too. A lot.

Well, unfortunately, this kind of behavior
usually BACKFIRES BIG TIME.

All of the little things that most guys do to
get a woman's approval send a clear message to the
woman that:

"I'M A WUSSY. I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT YOU WOULD LIKE
ME FOR WHO I AM, SO I FEEL LIKE I NEED TO RESORT
TO EXTREME MEASURES TO GET YOU TO PAY ATTENTION TO
ME."

Now that I understand this particular aspect of
male/female interactions, I can see the horrible
results all around me.

At bars I watch guys walking up to women and
giving compliments... or offering to buy drinks...
and the women smiling politely thinking, "Oh,
another loser", and excusing themselves...

I see men at dinner with their dates...
DESPERATELY trying to get the women they're with
to show any sign of interest... but the women only
become colder and less interested... And I know
that the women are only getting ANNOYED at this
behavior...

I read personal ads in the paper and online
from men who are saying "Hey, pick me! I'm a great
guy! No, really!"... and I know that the women
reading these ads are saying to themselves "Yeah,
loser"... and the guys are getting little or no
response...

I think you get the picture.

The point I'm making is that when you do things
like asking her if she wants you to call her or if
she wants to call you... and apologizing for
making out with her, you are making the same basic
mistake.

Why would you apologize for making out with a
woman?

I mean, think about it.

You're not REALLY sorry... otherwise you would
not have done it in the first place. Duh.

You were actually LYING when you said you were
sorry. You were only sorry that she didn't want to
continue, man.

When you said, "I'm sorry", what she HEARD was
"Uh oh, I just screwed up. I'd better say
something quick to fix this. I will put aside my
own wants and desires, and say whatever you want
to hear in hopes that you'll like me and give me
attention and approval".

Really.

It's actually even WORSE than that.

The reality of this situation is that when you
apologized, you created a POWER SHIFT.

The power shifted from YOU to HER.

You felt it, and she felt it.

I guarantee that in the few seconds after you
said "I'm sorry", you felt a sinking feeling in
your stomach and knew something was wrong. But I
ALSO guarantee that she felt a little SURGE of
power AT THAT VERY MOMENT.

At the same moment you were realizing that you
just did something wrong, she was realizing that
she OWNED YOU.

Unfortunately, she probably also felt a little
bit of disappointment in you, because you were
apologizing for something just to get her
approval... and women don't WANT to own men.

Heavy man, heavy.

And the SAME thing happened in the moment that
you asked her if she wanted you to call her or if
she wanted to call you (but probably to a lesser
degree).

That's one of those little moments where you
basically said "Here, take the power. Tell me what
you want me to do, and I'll do it. You get to make
the decisions. Please tell me that you want me to
call you, because that will affirm that you like
me".

Keep this up, and you'll probably wind up a
boyfriend who she eventually cheats on... or, even
worse, a boyfriend who she eventually marries and
then divorces because you turned into a boring
Wussy husband from hell.

So, my general advice to you is:

STOP IT!

Stop doing things that let her know that she
OWNS you.

One of the best things you can do is learn to
PAUSE before you respond to ANYTHING that makes
you feel an "Emotional Wussy Rush".

If she says something that indicates that she's
not happy with you or your behavior, PAUSE.

Don't respond. Stay still. Keep the mouth shut
and the brain operating.

If you have to, run everything through your
mental "Wussy Analyzer".

Decide if the response you're going to give her
is to get her approval, and if it is, STOP.

Don't do things that hand over the power in the
relationship. Don't let the things a woman says
shake you emotionally.

Finally, I want to address your mistake of
making out with her somewhere other than in your
house or her house.

I'm sure the reason is obvious, right?

One of the best things I've learned is that if
you LEAN BACK when you're out on a date with a
girl, and don't try to "make your move" early on,
you'll do MUCH better later.

You mentioned that you're reading my eBook
right now... and it sounds like you're actually
doing pretty well. If you've gotten five women's
numbers in four days, I think you're going to
live... lol.

Pay close attention, because in my eBook (and
especially in my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD
program) I share some KILLER techniques for making
it completely "natural" for a woman to come back
to your place, come inside, etc. and the exact
steps to take, to take things to a "physical
level" once you're there.

Most guys totally screw this part up.

They go to all the trouble to approach a woman,
get her number, call her, get a date, go on the
date, pay for the date, spend all that time... and
then have NO IDEA what to do next.

The reality is that if you just KNOW WHAT TO
DO, and you've prepared in advance, you can easily
take things to the next level... and give her an
experience that will make her DEFINITELY call you
back for another date.

David Deangelo - 4 Traits Of A "Cool Guy"

Here's Are 4 Traits Of A "Cool Guy"...

I get a lot of questions from guys asking all
kinds of questions about how to behave around
women.

In fact, this might be one of the areas that
guys want to know the most about.

I've been doing a lot of thinking over the past
year or so about the concept of being "cool".

In other words, I've been watching people
(myself included) to see if I could figure out why
some people are considered "cool" while some are
considered "not-so-cool"... and more importantly,
how to use this idea to have more success with
women.

So what is a "cool guy"?

And what is it about a guy who's "cool" that
makes women feel more attracted to him than an
"uncool" guy?

Let me tell you a few quick mini-stories about
guys I've known who were UN-cool.

One friend I used to have LOVED to argue with
people. He would start arguments about anything
and always take the opposite perspective on every
topic. He did this with women all the time too. I
think he felt like he was coming across as smart
when he argued. Guess what? Women hated it, and
ran as soon as he started in. His guy friends
hated it too. He was UN-cool because his
insecurity was so strong, that he had to argue to
get attention.

Another friend I have always tries to do nice
things and favors for women he likes. As soon as
he meets a woman he likes, he tries to find
something he can do for her. Of course, he then
gets upset when the woman doesn't return the
feelings of affection... and he acts upset and
"taken advantage of". This, of course, makes women
run away. As you can probably guess, he's trying
to manipulate women with favors. And women resent
him for it. Women don't think he's cool, and they
avoid him.

I know one guy who loves to tell women how
beautiful they are, buys them drinks and dinners,
and pursues them with the "You're the greatest
thing in the world and I'm going to chase you
around and try to buy your attention". And even
though he's doing a lot of "nice" things for the
women he's interested in, he can't keep one around
for more than a date or two. Even his guy friends
think that he needs to calm down and act more
"cool" in general.

Now, all three of the guys I've mentioned above
have different problems... but the way I see it,
they're all strangely related.

Here are a few more quick stories about guys I
know who are "cool".

One guy I know always has girls around him. In
fact, I don't think I've ever seen him WITHOUT at
least one girl with him. Usually he has three or
four girls with him... and sometimes up to 10 or
12. He always makes fun of the girls, teases them,
and treats them like good friends who he's
comfortable enough to bust on. He's not rich, he
doesn't buy things for women, and he doesn't kiss
up to them. He DOES, on the other hand, make it
his business to know where the "cool" places are
in town, where to go out, and who to call for the
"inside track" on where the hot spots are. Then he
shows up at the door to these hot spots with five
women. EVERYONE who knows him thinks of him as a
"cool" guy.

I have another friend that is really amazing
with women. But he does something that's rather
unusual when he's around women. He kind of IGNORES
them when he first meets them. If he's out with
friends, and one of them introduces a female
friend to him, he'll shake her hand and say "hi",
then TURN AWAY and go back to whatever he was
doing. Somehow, the women that are around him
always want to talk to HIM. And all the guys he
knows think of him as one of the coolest guys
around.

Finally, I have one friend who literally says
things to women like, "You probably wouldn't like
me. I don't really have relationships with women.
Our relationship will probably go no further than
the physical..." If you've seen my Advanced DVD
Program, you probably remember him saying these
exact words when I'm interviewing him. He's so
calm and laid back around women that they have to
pursue HIM... and it happens a lot. He's
blunt, direct, and honest about whatever is on his
mind. He doesn't chase women, buy them things, or
smother them with compliments... and yet, they
love him. And he has a crew of guy friends who all
love him and think he's one of the "coolest" guys
in the world.

So what is it that separates the "cool" guys
from the "uncool" guys?

What is "cool"?

What is it that makes a few rare people the
kind of people that EVERYONE wants to be around?

What is it about UN-cool guys that repels other
people, and makes women run away?

And what is it about this element that I'm
calling "cool" that makes guys who have it attract
more women than they can handle?

THE DEFINITION OF COOL

I personally think that being "cool" comes down
to:

1) Being independent

2) Being indifferent

3) Being funny

4) Being socially adjusted

Before I get into each of these in detail, I
want to mention something...

Usually, I tend to stick to techniques to help
you meet more women, or give you advice to get
past limiting beliefs, etc.

I've realized recently that there are a few
BASIC, FUNDAMENTAL things that we, as guys, need
to really "get" about interacting with other
people before we start trying to learn advanced
stuff, like how to approach and meet women. If you
don't have some of the basic things handled, all
the fancy techniques in the world won't fix your
problem.

So stick with me here, this is important.

OK, so let's talk about the four components
that I mentioned above.

BEING INDEPENDENT

Independent is the OPPOSITE of "dependent".

When you act "dependent", you lean on others,
you look to them for approval, you ask what they
think before you make a decision, you tend to want
to stay physically close to them, and your
feelings tend to depend on what others feel and
think of you.

When you act INDEPENDENT, you lean back, you do
things because YOU decided you wanted to, you
don't ask others what they think - instead you
decide yourself, you are fine walking away from
your friends for awhile when you're out, and your
feelings are controlled by what YOU think, not
what others think.

A "dependent" person will go into a bar with
friends, stick close to them all night, ask what
everyone else is drinking before they order, get
upset easily about things that others say, and
constantly be looking for attention and approval
in some way.

An INDEPENDENT person, on the other hand, will
go into a bar with friends and be more likely
to... walk away and look around the place ALONE to
see who's there - and feel fine about leaving
their friends for awhile and striking up a
conversation with a stranger... They'll order a
drink if they want, or water if they want - and
not care what everyone else is drinking... They'll
be cool and calm no matter what happens - even if
others are getting upset around them... And, most
importantly, they aren't looking to others for
attention and approval. They're doing their own
thing, and enjoying whatever happens.

BEING INDIFFERENT

Most people in this world are ATTACHED to the
outcomes of things. They're constantly worrying
about what's going to happen... and talking about
the future in a fearful, uncertain way.

This type of person always wants to know what
other people think of them, and they're worrying
about what they should do so other people will
like them. Unfortunately, this almost ALWAYS comes
across as INSECURITY.

An INDIFFERENT person, on the other hand, just
goes about life and takes things as they come.

The indifferent person is INDIFFERENT to the
outcome of whatever situation they're in.

If it's a man, and he's approaching a woman, he
will be OK with whatever happens. If she's nice to
him, great. If she's uptight, no problem. If she's
rich, famous, and beautiful... and starts coming
on to him, fine. No big deal.

When you are ATTACHED to the outcome of a
situation, it makes you act all kinds of freaky.
You pause, act nervous, hold back, look for
approval, act insecure... and any of 100 other
unattractive things.

On the other hand, when you're INDIFFERENT to
the outcome, it makes you MAGNETIC. Especially
when it comes to women and dating. Indifference is
the ultimate way to show a LACK of insecurity in
life.

BEING FUNNY

Humor is magic.

It's a complete mystery why we find things
"funny" and why we "laugh".

Crying because someone died makes some logical
sense. It's a bad thing, and crying expresses a
negative emotion.

But when you see a dog run into a window
because he doesn't see it... and he gets a
confused look on his face, you LAUGH. What's with
that?

Humor is interesting to me, in that if you're
funny, it makes people FEEL GOOD inside. They
laugh, and it triggers positive feelings.

If you're not naturally funny, it's a great
skill to learn. Read books. Watch live comedy. Do
whatever it takes to learn how to be funny.

Most of the "coolest" guys I know are wickedly
funny. Some of them are only funny on occasion...
but they "get it"... and when they do make a joke,
it's DAMN funny.

BEING SOCIALLY ADJUSTED

I know that this sounds funny, but most of the
people I know who are "UN-cool" are not very
adjusted socially.

They lack a certain something in the "social
skills" department that makes it OBVIOUS to others
(and especially to women) that they don't know how
to relate very well to other people. They just
never learned how to make others feel comfortable
around them.

If you've ever known an accountant or computer
programmer that was brilliantly smart, but totally
boring, you know what I mean.

If people act kind of nervous, strange, and
uncomfortable when they're around you, then you
also know where I'm coming from on this.

I can't teach you how to make people feel
comfortable around you in two sentences, but if
you need to learn how to mix with people socially,
then start PAYING ATTENTION to what's going on
around you.

Watch how others dress, carry themselves, walk,
and talk. Pay attention to little details... like
saying, "What's up?" when you meet someone new,
instead of "Hello, pleased to meet you" and such.

...now, is this all there is to being "cool"?

Of course not.

But it's a great start.

If you can first get yourself to the place
where other people want to be around you just
because they enjoy your company, you'll find that
taking things to the next level with women will be
about 10 times easier.

I've had this conversation with MANY of the
guys I know who are successful with women, and
they all basically say the same thing... you have
to learn how to be "cool" and make others (women)
feel comfortable just being in the same room with
you. And if you're "cool", this happens almost
instantly. If you're not "cool", then you're going
to have a hard time making ANYONE feel comfortable
with you... never mind having a woman feel
ATTRACTION for you.

Now, I also realized that a lot of the
materials that I teach in my eBook and Advanced
Dating Techniques CD/DVD Program are aimed at this
EXACT topic.

Even though I don't talk very much about this
concept (I will in the future, though), you'll
notice that many of the techniques you'll learn
from my materials will help you in a lot of areas
of your life... not just with women.

As a direct result of the things I've learned
about how to be more successful with women and
dating, I've ALSO become more successful at things
like being invited to "exclusive" parties, having
famous and successful people pursue me as a
friend, and just generally being invited into more
"exclusive" social circles.

Why is this?

Well, for one thing, people who know a lot of
"cool" or influential people are very careful
about who they "bring along" to gatherings with
friends.

The LAST thing someone "cool" needs in their
life is an "UN-cool" person making a jackass of
themselves in front of all of their friends.

When you learn the art of being "cool", you
start to attract other cool people. And those
people will see that you're not insecure,
emotionally unstable, clingy, and such. They'll
see that you know how to handle yourself with
other people (and with women), and they'll start
introducing you to other cool people (including
women) instead of running away from you.

I know that this newsletter is going to ignite
a whole series of letters to me about how learning
these concepts has done exactly what I'm talking
about for various guys (and I want to hear about
it, by the way, so make sure you write in).

So, want more great ideas on how to be "cool",
and how to meet and date more women?

I thought so...

It took me a long time to figure out how to be
"cool" around women... and how to make women feel
that powerful physical and emotional response
called ATTRACTION...

I can't tell you how much I wish I could have
known what I teach when I was younger. It's taken
me literally YEARS to put all the pieces together,
and I invite you to take advantage of the time,
effort, energy, and money I've invested to
discover, refine, and organize all of the step- by-
step techniques I've put together...

David Deangelo - "Approaching Women" - A Great Technique‏

***QUESTION***

Hello Dave,

I just wanted to start off by saying you have very
valid points with women. I have worked at bars and
restaurants where women come in looking to hook up
with men. And the cocky-funny attitude works
wonders. I'm 22 going on 23 and I have had no
problem ever getting women to give me their
number. But there is one problem I do have. That
is timing "the call". When should I call? Plus I
used your "Are you single" approach with this very
attractive girl. She gave me 5 mins of her time
and I found out some cool things about her. She
was very hesitant on giving me her number, but
after I sat down to talk to her, she gave me her
number. Well, I called her two days after she
gave me her number and she was on the other line.
So she told me to call her back in 15 mins. I
waited 30 and she never answered the phone. so I
left a message. Should I rip up her number and
never call her again? Or should I call her in a
week? Your advise would be greatly appreciated.
Plus why would she give me her number if she
planned on not talking to me in the first place?

Thanks.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I personally think that this is one of the
funniest questions I hear. I mean, haven't you
watched "Swingers"? lol...

My rule of thumb is to wait at least one day,
but not more than a few. The real key is how OFTEN
you call her, and more importantly, what you SAY
when you call.

But let's talk about the psychology of why
women give out their phone numbers, and why I
personally like to get email addresses.

You must remember that attractive women are
being approached all the time by men, in one way
or another.

They have an unlimited supply of guys to choose
from.

I think that a lot of women who give out their
numbers, but then respond by being flaky when you call,
are doing something that many of us guys wouldn't
have thought of in a million years:

I think they're making themselves feel good.

Explained differently, I think that many women
who give out their numbers are looking for the
self-image-boosting hit of power that comes from
having a lot of men calling them... men that THEY
have the power to ACCEPT OR REJECT.

They can also use it to get attention from
friends:

"All these guys just keep calling me! Why don't
they just leave me alone! Don't they get the
hint!?"

Now, don't get me wrong. I know that this
sounds a little bit negative... and I don't mean
to say that ALL women do this, or that ALL women
are bad, etc.

To me, it's just part of the real world that
you need to learn to accept and deal with.

Which leads me to why I get email addresses...

Keep in mind, I've tried a lot of different
things when it comes to curing this problem of
hot-and-cold women who act one way when you meet
them, then totally different when you call.

And what I've found is that if you get EMAILS
instead, you not only differentiate yourself, but
you also increase your chances of hearing back
from her by about 100%. No lie.

For some reason, email has a power that a call
does not.

If you have my ebook "Double Your Dating", then
you have read about the technique for getting a
woman's email address within a few minutes of
meeting her. Email is also seen as lower risk by
her... and it's easier to get as well.

Try it. You'll like it.

***QUESTION***

David

Being cocky is the best way to go! I have picked
up more chicks reading your newsletter then I ever
have in my life. Getting the digits is a problem i
used to have and really sweat about. But now its a
breeze! and i average about 3-5 a week.

But anyway to my dilemma..! I met this chick at
work, she is very good looking and we flirt all
the time. But she has a boyfriend! He drives a
killer truck and he is 22 and im 19. Recently we
have been flirting and talking more then ever. but
a co-worker went up to her and said that i really
like her and that she should stop sending me the
wrong signals since she has a boyfriend. So she
comes up to me and tells me that flirting is just
part of her personality and that she has a
boyfriend that she plans on being with for a
while. But it just doesn't add up... when im
around her i get a totally different vibe...
everybody around me tells me that they can tell
she wants me. Plus i already have her number
THANKS TO YOU!!!! but how do i get past the mature
rich boyfriend. Or boyfriends in general!! im
stumped on how to retaliate Please help me find
out what she wants, and how to send the bf packin!
i am so stuck on this chick that i even find
myself being depressed after that day... HELP
ME!!!

your loyal fan.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

With all the women out there that don't have
boyfriends who drive trucks... and don't work at
the same place you do (which can only lead to
problems in the long run), why are you spending
your time pining away over this one?

I know, I know. She's extra good-looking, and
she's funny, and blah blah blah.

Look, just be her friend, and keep teasing her.
She's great target practice.

But do yourself a major favor, and go find a
girl who doesn't have a truck-owning boyfriend,
and who doesn't work with you.

Then, if the stars align in the future, she
won't have Truck Man anymore, and you won't work
at the same place, and she'll be so attracted to
you from all of the teasing that she'll follow you
around like a puppy.

Stop wasting your mental energy trying to get
something that has a high risk of turning out very
bad, and focus on finding opportunities that make
more sense.

***QUESTION***

Hi David,

What are your thoughts on approaching groups? And
what's the best way to approach a group of girls?
I just moved to Vegas, and I've found that
beautiful girls will frequently travel in groups
of up to 8 girls or more. What have you found
works best for approaching groups? Thanks!

S.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

The only reasons I can see for approaching a
"Group" of 8 or more girls are:

1) You have a bunch of friends, and you're trying
to hook them all up.

2) You really like challenges and entertaining
people.

I know someone who loves to approach groups of
people, and he's great at it. He uses a
combination of magic, humor, and other great
techniques to charm everyone, then leaves with the
girl of his choice.

But as far as I'm concerned, it's not the group
you're after most of the time... it's one woman in
the group... so stop with the "GROUP-THINK".

OK, 8 women walk into a club together (sounds
like the beginning of a good joke). What happens
over the next 2 hours?

Well, some of them peel off and dance, some go
to the bar for a drink, some go to the lady's room
to powder their noses...

There are all kinds of opportunities to meet
women when they're not in the group of 8. And I'll
tell you what, if she is standing at the bar with
her 7 friends and you start talking to her, the
other 7 will go about their business and not care.

Just go get her email address. That's all you
need.

Or learn magic. Really.

***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

David:

As a female subscriber I'd like to admit to
consciously falling for many of the techniques
outlined in your newsletter. I'm a nineteen year
old college girl and have been dating my boyfriend
for four years. His occasional disinterest in me
only makes me want him more. He doesn't call or
email me as often as i call him or think it
necessary that we spend every weekend together and
i know he has a life other than me (i find this
terribly attractive). His body language or habit
of "taking up space and leaning back" is
irresistible and his cocky attitude has been
making me hot for years. I want to tell your male
subscribers not to lose the cocky/funny routine
after they have found a girl they like; not just
to keep her, but to attract other girls as well. i
find it a huge turn on when i catch other girls
checking out my guy.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ah, yes. Thanks for the comments. Next time do
tell more about the whole "I find it a huge turn
on when I catch other girls checking out my guy"
thing.

***QUESTION***

Hi David,

I have a question for you. Does the techniques you
use in your book work on women of all races? I am
African - American.

Thanks,

GB

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I get literally hundreds of emails a week from
all over the world telling success stories, so my
guess is that "yes, they do"...

And as a matter of fact, I'd like to thank all
my readers from every corner of the planet for
staying tuned, and for sending in your questions
and stories.

Often, the person sending the story doesn't
speak or write English very well, and I don't
speak their language, so I don't include them in
these Mailbags... but I try to respond personally
when I can.

My answer to you is: Try it. I think these
principals are universal when it comes to women.
Just take your local customs, traditions, and
benchmarks of proper behavior, as cultures
differ... and I know that our culture in America
is different than many of the cultures around the
world.

***QUESTION***

David, I just wanted to give your book a plug to
all the men out there who are currently involved
in a long-term relationship and want to spice
things up. Using the techniques described in your
book I completely turned around a 10 year
relationship that had gone stale. We went from
having sex 2-3 times a day in the first 6 months
of the relationship to once or twice a MONTH in
the last couple of years. After reading your book,
I began the whole cocky/funny routine on my wife
and stopped giving in to every little whim she had
and...BAM! Just like that she was attracted again.
She tried to pretend that she didn't like the
cockiness, but her actions showed how she really
felt about it. We're now back to 2-3 times a week
and I'm loving life. Thanks buddy for a great
education.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Can I just tell you how much I love getting
emails like this one? Hats off to you.

***QUESTION***

I just wanted to say I LOVE YOU MAN! for
emphasizing the COCKY AND FUNNY philosophy. I've
recently tried out this Internet dating thing and
man I'm telling you that I turned up the volume to
the max on being "cocky and funny" towards the
cutest chicks on the web. Let me tell you man that
my profile reads like a d*ckhead who can be
hilarious at the same time wrote this stuff. I
would say things like I got "abs" and sh*t, and
that I only date girls with pretty faces and who
have cute feet and straight teeth; that I like to
party and have fun and look good doing it and that
my weakness is that I can be an a**hole sometimes
but give me one reason to change? You would not
believe the response so far. I'll keep you posted.

Keep up the good advice.

V.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

lol... You just gotta love guys who take things
to the limit, huh? I think you're starting to get
it... lol.

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

This cocky/funny stuff becomes part of you after
you use it for a while. I have gotten numerous e-
mails and dates under my belt thanks to you.

Example : I met this girl at a bar, mostly college
crowd. Lot of guys were hitting on her. But as
soon as I saw her alone - I approached her. Here
is the dialogue:

Me: Hey, can I ask you a quick question? Her:
ya.... Me: You go to college around here? Her: no
(and then she looks away as if not interested) Me:
(I tap on her shoulder) So where you from? Her:
From...(she gives the city name 4hrs away from
where I live) Me: How do you like it here? Her: I
am visiting friends (She looks away again and
talks to her friend). Me: So what do you do in
(her town)? Her: I go to pharmacy school... Me: SO
YOU ARE A DRUG DEALER?? Her:(She cracks up and the
ice is broken).....small talk .....ya da ya da.
me: small talk.....ya da ya da me: I need to go
back to my friends but nice meeting you.(I turn
away) her: nice meeting you too (I really had her
attention by now) Me: (Turn back) do you have e-
mail? her: I don't check my e-mail often. ME:
"Ha!ha!ha!" (I started laughing loud) Her:(Little
disarmed) Me: Do you have electricity? Her:
no....(cracks up)....I really don't check e- mail.
Me: Listen girl....imagine the worst case
scenario...(do as mentioned in you DD book) .....I
just want to make friends with a DRUG DEALER. Her:
Okay...here is my e-mail. TOTAL TIME - 3 minutes
and 16 seconds to get her e-mail - yes i timed it.

We have exchanged e-mails back and forth now. She
even asked me to come to her place to go
partying/dancing.

I replied back saying: "What?? I don't even know
you and u want me already? Sorry I am not that
easy. Whatever happened to the good old days when
ladies invite guys for coffee first?"

She is special (she is awesome and seems to have
good personal qualities). Problem is she lives
four hours away - how do I go about doing this
long distance thing? I told her to come on down
to my town. Provided she has personality that
matches her looks - I think she would be worth my
time and I would drive 4hrs to see her.

-A.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I know, isn't it great that this stuff actually
works?

By the way, nice touch asking the pharmacy
school gal if she's a drug dealer.

This is a great example of EXACTLY what to do
when you meet a girl. Read it again.

And as for the driving 4 hours thing... In the
4 hours of driving EACH WAY, you could probably go
out and meet several other nice young ladies that
are a bit closer. Maybe she loves to drive?

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

Unsolicited, I think you're book is AMAZING. NICE
WORK! Breaking rapport with humor is a charm! I'm
having a blast with it. Ex: Attractive older
woman at the cash register tells me to move over
to the next register, then she tells another clerk
to take care of the next customer, I say, "You
just order EVERYBODY around...DON'T you?" She
goes, "I'm too old to get married, but I LIKE you!
You're REAL!" So of course, I responded, "Well, I
just do what I'm told, but I'm not so sure about
you...too BOSSY." Women love this stuff!

Question: I've noticed in three different
occasions where chicks have respond to my actions
by pouting. I know that you've had some great
recommendations, i.e., saying, "You're cute when
you pout.", etc. and it works, but, in your
opinion, have you found that the pouters have a
lot of personal baggage? Or is that normal
female behavior??...or BOTH. The last thing I want
to do is get too involved with a neurotic. Please
share your experience and observation. Thanks, DJ
Chicago

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, if you date enough women, you'll get just
about every possible response in the world.

Sure, once in awhile a woman will pout if you
give her a hard time and tease her.

It's a judgment call, but if you're dealing
with a fragile personality just say, "Oh, lighten
up."

Most of the time, just do what you're doing...
"You're cute when you're mad" is great.

Thanks for your story.

***QUESTION***

Dave, its working too good for me!!!....lol! You
truly know ur stuff. I've had so many girls
pursue
me in the last couple of months. Ive narrowed
down my girls down to 2 and they both cant get
enough of me, but theres one i really like out of
the 2. I've recently decided to break it off with
one of them and stick with the one i really like,
but there's a problem. With the one that i really
like, no one really has the upper hand in the
relationship. I dont know what i have to do to
gain this powerful control. How can i make this
girl wait on my every word!??!?! Any help would
be much appreciated. Once again, you are the man
Dave. Thanks again.

B.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ahhhhh... interesting.

The one you like is the one who won't allow
herself to be controlled. An attractive woman with
a sharp mind and a quick wit. A challenge.

Probably not a coincidence, my friend.

Of course, this is the same thing a woman is
looking for in a man... someone who is
interesting, challenging, unpredictable...

If I were you, I'd thank my lucky stars that:

1) You found a woman that is this great.

2) You learned how to be and stay attractive to
her.

You sound like a guy who's interested in having
a great relationship, but I'm not a relationship
counselor.

I get guys INTO troubles like yours, not help
them deal with it!

You poor, poor dear.

OK, I gotta go... but one more thing...

If you are thinking to yourself "I really,
really need to get this part of my life
handled"...

Then YOU'RE RIGHT.

You certainly do need to get it handled.

You need to learn how to become more successful
with women and dating RIGHT NOW.